Bridesmaid

kimiandcraig

My "soon to be sis in law"- my fiances' brothers wife is causing a lot of sadness for my fiance and I. My Sister will be my Maid of honor and my other two bridesmaids live out of state. My fiance asked his sister in law to be in the wedding because he felt it was the right thing to do. Not only is his brother have a bad attitude about most everything, his sister in law has been the only woman in the family and had all the attention and is not wanting to share.  She takes no interest in the wedding and offers no help or asks questions of any kind. She acts like she is doing us a favor!  She expects us to call her and invite her personally to things instead of help plan anything for the wedding. Not only am I sad to not have my loving and helpful friends here, the one bridesmaid who is here does not even care! How do I handle it? Each time I try to reach out and show her things for the wedding etc. she does not care and then I feel and look dumb. What to do?

amdeetjen

I know its hard to deal with difficult family members. Do you have any local friends who aren't your bridesmaids that you can call on? I know how it feels to have out of town bridesmaids, because 6 of my 7 are from my hometown in the Northeast, while I am in South Florida. Believe it or not, so many of my friends here in Florida have requested to assist in my wedding process just because they know my bridesmaids are not around. Sometimes the people that you would least expect to help you will jump through hoops for you. So, if others offer their time, take them up on it.

Soon2BWe

Oh, wow! Did I write this post while sleeping? I am going through the EXACT same thing! My fiance's brother's wife (also the only woman in the family til now) seems to be having a hard time accepting that not only am I going to be the new-girl-on-the-block, but she acts like nothing is happening. My fiance doesn't seem to pay it any mind and always says to just "not take it so personally" "she's just jealous" but it definetly sucks to see that she takes pleasure in ignoring the comment I just made about my simple joy in discovering "the perfect hairstyle" or "perfect flowers". I guess I should take his advice and let it slide off my skin rather than get under it.

Anyways, 'kimiandcraig', its our day to shine... Who cares anymore... Smile and plan and don't let her get you down! Turn her negative energy positive and use it to push ahead, with or without her care. Good luck with everything! 

(P.S. - Atleast you guys invited her to be a bride's maid... I wasn't even that nice) 

kimiandcraig

Just an update! Our day went perfectly, except that she was in the bathroom talking about me and my Auntie heard. Trashy!  She is even more mad now that we are having a BABY! When we told her she was very rude.  Still his parents seem to think I need to just accept it for the kids sake.  They say nothing to her and her rude husband!  They do tell us when they are gone that they are mean.  I am tired of being hurt, and it is so hard to understand how family can act like this.  My family would never!

kimiandcraig

oh, and p.s., we had kicked her out of the wedding and she was not a bridesmaid because of her bad behavior! She is lucky she was invited.

trix1223

Why is this on the favors board?  Just curious.....