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For our centerpieces we're going to have live fish. 2 fish per bowl - one yellow and one blue (our color theme.) :) The question is what to do with the fish after the reception? My mom thinks that I should put a number under the fish bowl and then numbers under everyones seat and then people can win the fish to take home. I'm not sure about this because what if they don't want the fish? Is this a good idea? Should I just bring bags and say who ever wants one can have one - first come first serve?
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Re: Live fish

  • loop0406loop0406 member
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    edited December 2011
    My friend had a fishbowl centerpiece (live fish) at her wedding, the guests who wanted to, took the fishbowl home. Those that were left over, at the end of the night were put together in one bowl and taken home to put in my friend's aquarium.

    I think a game is a good idea for bday party, b shower, baby shower but not a wedding, sorry
  • edited December 2011
    I would just have the DJ make an announcement that if anyone wants them the centerpieces are up for grabs. Then people who want a fish could take them. People who don't have an aquarium wouldn't probably take a fish because then they would have to stop on their way home and get all the supplies. Just make sure you have a plan B for the fish that get left behind.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    Please don't do this!  Fish are animals, no decorations.  And dead fish in a bowl aren't pretty.  And not everyone wants an extra pet (or two).  What will you do with the "leftovers"?  These aren't things that should be thrown out with the trash.
  • edited December 2011
    If you're going to do this you need to be sure the fish will be okay.  Most fish (even goldfish) will not be okay for a whole day in a bowl unless it is a very large bowl - beta fish will, but you can only have one per bowl.  Also, if you do bowls and it's hot, there won't be enough oxygen in the water because the water won't be circulating.  The fish will die.

    If you are sending them home with people, you really need to make care cards so that people know what conditions the fish need and what fish they get along with.  If you have out african cichlids and someone puts that in a tank they have a home of tropicals... the cichlid will probably have eaten all their fish by morning...

    My suggestion would be to do the plant/beta combo  (Vase with stones beta lives in it, plant sits in tray at the mouth of vase and roots go into the water) as a centerpiece if you really want fish in your centerpieces.  The beta is adapted to living in small amounts of water, and the entire thing can go home with a care card and be a self contained unit.

    Just my two cents take it or leave it...


  • edited December 2011
    This is as bad as people who purchase bunnies and chicks for Easter and then disgard them. Those fish shouldn't be used for decoration. You must know that these fish are going to end up dead.
  • melissamc2melissamc2 member
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    edited December 2011
    In the course of a reception, a fish will produce fish waste.  The strand of this will be floating around behind it in your centerpiece as people are eating right there on the same table.

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  • psuxray07psuxray07 member
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    edited December 2011
    I kinda don't think it's a good idea to have live fish as a centerpiece.  They are animals, not decorations...  This is me:  but I can't give away animals because I don't trust others to take care of them right, especially if it wasn't their plan to go buy one themselves.  (Not saying they wouldn't, I just feel responsible for them).  But if you really are going to do this, I wouldn't do the game.  Just see who wants them.  Please have a backup plan to get these fish a home if nobody wants to take them... 
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  • edited December 2011
    I've been to weddings with "floaters" in my table's centerpiece.  And by floaters, I don't mean the string of poo that inevitably trails behing live fish.  Just a thought.
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks for making me see the light, guys. Ive decided to not use the fish. Im going to put tiny cages on the tables instead - filled with kittens and puppies!!! :D It's going to be awesome!
  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd just glue those kitties to a mirror on the table.  Because it's just as kind as using real fish for decorations.


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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    Fish are living creatures not wedding decor.  No one wants to take home fish from a wedding.  The fact that you don't know what to do with them afterwards should be your first clue it's a bad idea.
  • edited December 2011
    OMG Gluing them to a mirror is so perfect! I could spray them with the hairspray glitter stuff too! Thanks for the idea, bb.
  • kristinanddankristinanddan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_live-fish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:27Discussion:8576454c-4251-46aa-b401-88419ad7c29dPost:44c76aa3-5445-4156-843d-2c6378bcf6ba">Re: Live fish</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks for making me see the light, guys. Ive decided to not use the fish. Im going to put tiny cages on the tables instead - filled with kittens and puppies!!! :D It's going to be awesome!
    Posted by kelharrigan[/QUOTE]

    You're obviously kidding about the puppies and kittens, but what makes fish different? Just that they aren't cute and cuddly? They are still animals, and animals are not wedding props.
    Your mom's idea is the worst ever - not everyone wants a fish to take home.

    I've also heard stories on here of guests getting drunk and doing live fish shots. So if you want fish shots, dead fish, and fish poop in your face while eating dinner, it's a great idea. Otherwise, find a different centerpiece.
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  • edited December 2011
    Well apparently my friends must be classier than yours because no one I know would ever do a live fish shot. That's just disgusting.

    Dear everyone, thank you so much for throwing your unwanted moral opinions down my throat. I never asked for that. I asked if the game was a good idea or if I should give them away to those who want them.

    FYI: I'm getting married right next to water. After the ceremony we're going on a boat. Im making sure to get indigneous fish so if no one wants them to take them home, they're going in the canal. Please someone tell me that's harmful too, ha.

    So thanks for your unhelpful and mostly rude opinions. They're very appreciated, especially since you didn't know the whole story.

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  • edited December 2011
    I thought this was a wedding board, not a PETA board. My mistake.
  • edited December 2011
    You asked for an opinion on what to do after, don't get mad when people stated they didn't think it was a good idea. If you can't handle what people have to say good or bad don't post a thread asking for everyone's ideas.

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  • edited December 2011

    this is ridiculous! i don't encourage people using living house plants as favors either in case no one wants to bring them home and as far as dumping them in the water sure that seems like a great idea, but everytime you move around a fish you are risking its like transplanting it from one place to another, forgive us If we feel that basically abusing another living thing at your wedding is not the best tone to set for your lives together, apparantly you were so taken with your idea you just wanted everyone to bend over and say you were right.

  • rktorkto member
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    edited December 2011
    I dont care about the fish.  unfortunately, people may not want them but sounds like you have a plan.

    my concern is more selfish. as a bride I wouldnt want dead centrepieces - dead wilted flowers would suck, but even worse would be floating fish.  while you are eating.. not fun.
    and I have heard this happen at indoor and outdoor weddings.  it is kind of icky.
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  • psuxray07psuxray07 member
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    edited December 2011
    So, then I hope you will have them in a bag of water and let them get used to the canal, not just dump them in, or they will die from shock anyway.  I haven't ever posted any rude comments, but it seemed like you just wanted pretty for the wedding without really caring that it's a living thing.  It's just something I feel strongly about.  The whole story to begin with would have been nice.
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  • edited December 2011
    I would guess that many of the guests are going to be revolted at the sight of this cruelty. The OP should realize that not everyone condones animal/fish abuse like she does.
  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    OP:  We have a salt water aquarium, and also had a fresh water aquarium.  Fish take a lot of work.  A lot.  It's not as simple as you seem to think it is.  Dumping the fish into the canal is pretty much going to guarantee that the majority of them, if not all, die.

    Fish have to be acclimated to a new environment.  They have to be carefully incorporated in. 

    I hope it's not true, but you sound pretty thoughtless to me.  As for the guests at your wedding, the last thing that many, if  not most, will want to think about is driving home with a vase with fish in it on their laps.

    And then there's the expense and work to maintain the fish when they get home.  But you're putting them into an awkward position.  I'm sitting at the table:  the dj announces that "WOW!  Look under the vase and see who gets to take home the fish!  Hey, at table #7, it's TRIX!!" 

    Then everyone looks at me, and I'm on the spot.  Do I not drive home with a  water filled vase with fish in it on my lap, and be a party pooper?  Or do I take the fish home, and if I know nothing about fish, have it die in a day?

    Honestly, if you don't want flower CPs.  Okay.  But a living creature as part of the wedding decor is just wrong on so many levels.

    Finally, I didn't vote for two reasons:  I think polls are lame.  But second, it's a flawed poll, because there's no option for people who think it's just a terrible idea.  Both of your options assume that your guests will actually WANT the fish.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • edited December 2011
    As a active aquarist I also agree that this is probably a less that well thought out idea. Even to dump them in a local body of water for the aforementioned reasons and because in most places it is illegal to dump aquatic life into public/natural bodies of water.
  • edited December 2011
    1. I still don't care if you don't like the idea.
    2. It's still happening, whether you like it or not.
    3. I can handle the opinions, I think it's kind of funny really. This is the interne. Besides, gluing kittens to mirrors... hehheh.
    4. There's not an option for people to say it's a bad idea because that's not the question. Once again for those who can't read: I don't care if you don't like it.
    5. Try not making assumptions. I have this planned out. I think your comments are funny if not absurd. I could have posted my whole plan (I'm really not a cruel fish hater, I'm also not dumb and know how to research things) but I never dreamed PETA would be busting up in this post. Frankly, I've typed enough. Feel free to reply with more silly assumptions and moral standpoints though. :)

    Has anyone ever been to a festival with the fish game before?! Dang.
  • edited December 2011
    The dead fish thing I am a little worried about.. but I'm also worried about it raining since it's outside and the whole boat thing. Those are just things that I'll have to deal with IF/when they happen. I have the poop situation covered though.
  • edited December 2011
    Why don't you just setup some pit bull fights for some entertainment. Sounds real classy.
  • edited December 2011
    OP: The fish in centerpiece idea is the stupidest thing I've ever heard and just because you're obnoxious and b*tchy I hope it pours on your wedding day and your a*s slips trying to get on the boat after your ceremony.
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  • edited December 2011
    Well, we are having pugs be the ring bearers, I guess I could set them up to fight eachother! Cute idea, thanks! :D

    Aw peaches85, you are just so peachy. :) I like how you censored yourself, that's just darling.

    The fish centerpiece idea is actually pretty common! I, unfortunately, can't take credit for the idea. I can't believe no ones heard of it. How sheltered are you people? You obviously must not get on the internet much if you can't deal with the usual sarcasm and "b*tchyness" from posters, haha. So, not surprised.
  • edited December 2011
    I seriously hope that none of the haters here are/did serve meat on their menu. If so, that would just be hilariously hypocritical. :) PS I'm going to be wearing a vintage mink stole over my dress on the boat. Hahah.
  • salt78salt78 member
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    edited December 2011
    Awwww how cute. It sounds like a school fair. 
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  • edited December 2011
    The only part I am curious about is the "indigenous fish" that match the wedding colors of blue and yellow.  Seriously?  The plastic bag idea is priceless... It reminds me of the Feast of San Genaro street fair in NYC.....
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