MOB fighting with long-time family friend....do I invite?

Knottieb21a4e3675434b0a

I am getting married next June and the family is chomping at the bit about the invitation list.  Will be a 120-ish person wedding, so there is significant planning to do.  That being said, there is one woman (Emily, we'll call her), who has been a family friend since my parents were in college.  I used to summer at her house, her son summered at my place, every year different holidays were spent at eachother's houses....you get the idea.  Well, Emily met a man who none of us like bc she constantly tells us he is a douche (not the story here).  I guess more recently he proposed and she accepted, and put it on Facebook instead of personally calling my mother.  My mother is livid, and a fight has ensued. 

So now, with the wedding planning, I want Emily there, she has been like a mother to me, but I know my mom is not happy with her.  They have resolved the fight to a point where they rarely talk and they just don't talk about that subject.  So can I still invite Emily?  She and I are not fighting, and I certainly want her their for my day (she also lost her only son a few years ago, so she has said before that I am literally like a daughter to her now).  At the same time, I don't want to upset my mother.....I desperately need help!!

GoodLuckBear14

Your mother needs to grow the hell up.  Invite the friend.

I don't understand why this is posted on the Favors board.

Summer2011Bride

You got a lot of good responses on the E board. Also, since you are already married (which came out on the E board), please call it a vow renewal and be up front with your guests that you are, in fact, already married.

bluedragonfly22

Invite the friend, they can act as adults long enough to get through your wedding day.