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Favors....Not mandatory

So, I went to a wedding this weekend and they had no favors.  I didn't even realize until I was telling my stepmom about the wedding the following day.  And we were comparing different aspects to the wedding I am planning.  So, I just want to say, if they are causing you stress or don't seem in the budget, its okay to skip them entirely!!  I didn't miss them one bit!

Re: Favors....Not mandatory

  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011

    No, not mandatory.  But every bride wants to do them.   And now that I did, I wish I would have put the money elsewhere.  They weren't worth the expense or the hassle.

  • edited December 2011
    I feel the same way! My fiance and I are getting married at a hotel so we will make welcome bags for everyone that stays at the hotel and also have a late night snack served at our wedding reception in lieu of favors. I only remember taking one wedding favor, a wine stopper, sometimes they can look tacky on the tables too!
  • sytomsytom member
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    edited December 2011
    Yay !  I like that and I hope it will catch on.  Most of the time, they end up stored away and you never see them.
    On the other hand, I feel like I have to have them because I feel guests kinda expect favors.  As for me, I think it takes a lot of courage to forget about them, but good for those who do !
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  • ekilzer1ekilzer1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am just doing a candy bar as my "favor"- my wedding is right after Halloween so there will be a huge discount on candy and I am borrowing the jars from various friends and family.... I am using small brown paper bags (we have a schoolhouse theme... and my friend had to buy 500 for her wedding so she has tons left over and is just giving them to me)...

    So ultimately I won't be spending more than $50 -$100 on favors for over 150 guests... 

    Super super simple, inexpensive and its something they can enjoy... and honestly a table FULL of candy is hard to miss so I am not worried about it all going to waste. 
  • edited December 2011
    We skipped the favor at our wedding, instead we made a donation to a local charity that we both enjoy. I don't think any of our guests noticed the lack of favors and I hope more brides start to shy away from them.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_favorsnot-mandatory?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:27Discussion:f0e8eb27-e182-4d03-9b45-b3dad80c3c5fPost:ec39a852-51ae-4664-8114-3b1bd697cb16">Re: Favors....Not mandatory</a>:
    [QUOTE]We skipped the favor at our wedding, instead we made a donation to a local charity that we both enjoy. I don't think any of our guests noticed the lack of favors and<strong> I hope more brides start to shy away from them.
    </strong>Posted by ljahns[/QUOTE]


    Why do you "hope" this?

    I personally don't agree or disagree with the whole favor thing, I think It's a fun addition to the wedding and whether or not the guests enjoy it or take them - they're there for the offer...
    agree with the donation aspect it's not a "favor" to your guests so it really can't be called, "in lieu of favors... blah blah" (although, it's still a nice gesture to donate to a cause that you care about) I'm not knocking that
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  • JustKateJustKate member
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    edited December 2011

    The only favor I remembering taking is from FI's sisters wedding in NYC because it was a fancy crystal wine stopper.  Other than that, I can't remember if others had them, gave them or what have you.  I think they are overrated.  I would much rather spend the money on something else for the guests to enjoy during the reception instead of after the fact.

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  • edited December 2011
    I went to a wedding earlier this year that did not have favors.  I noticed there were no favors, but I didn't really care too much.  I didn't think badly of the B&G for not having them.

    Unlike PPs, I remember what most of the favors have been at the weddings I've been to in the past 2-3 years.  Maybe I just have a good memory.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_favorsnot-mandatory?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:27Discussion:f0e8eb27-e182-4d03-9b45-b3dad80c3c5fPost:4d1659c0-32cc-48dd-a4dd-6cd2b4fb5260">Re: Favors....Not mandatory</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Favors....Not mandatory : Why do you "hope" this? I personally don't agree or disagree with the whole favor thing, I think It's a fun addition to the wedding and whether or not the guests enjoy it or take them - they're there for the offer... agree with the donation aspect it's not a "favor" to your guests so it really can't be called, "in lieu of favors... blah blah" (although, it's still a nice gesture to donate to a cause that you care about) I'm not knocking that
    Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]

    I completely agree, I think the whole "in lieu of favors..." saying is tacky and we didn't go that route. I simply meant that I <strong>hope</strong> brides don't feel that favors or manditory or a necessity.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_favorsnot-mandatory?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:27Discussion:f0e8eb27-e182-4d03-9b45-b3dad80c3c5fPost:ff80ea3d-8b38-4cfc-b8e4-a238aae94b0f">Re: Favors....Not mandatory</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Favors....Not mandatory : I completely agree, I think the whole "in lieu of favors..." saying is tacky and we didn't go that route. I simply meant that I hope brides don't feel that favors or manditory or a necessity.
    Posted by ljahns[/QUOTE]

    Ohh, I understand :)
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