So, I went to a wedding this weekend and they had no favors. I didn't even realize until I was telling my stepmom about the wedding the following day. And we were comparing different aspects to the wedding I am planning. So, I just want to say, if they are causing you stress or don't seem in the budget, its okay to skip them entirely!! I didn't miss them one bit!
Re: Favors....Not mandatory
No, not mandatory. But every bride wants to do them. And now that I did, I wish I would have put the money elsewhere. They weren't worth the expense or the hassle.
With All the Trimmings
On the other hand, I feel like I have to have them because I feel guests kinda expect favors. As for me, I think it takes a lot of courage to forget about them, but good for those who do !
[QUOTE]We skipped the favor at our wedding, instead we made a donation to a local charity that we both enjoy. I don't think any of our guests noticed the lack of favors and<strong> I hope more brides start to shy away from them.
</strong>Posted by ljahns[/QUOTE]
Why do you "hope" this?
I personally don't agree or disagree with the whole favor thing, I think It's a fun addition to the wedding and whether or not the guests enjoy it or take them - they're there for the offer...
agree with the donation aspect it's not a "favor" to your guests so it really can't be called, "in lieu of favors... blah blah" (although, it's still a nice gesture to donate to a cause that you care about) I'm not knocking that
The only favor I remembering taking is from FI's sisters wedding in NYC because it was a fancy crystal wine stopper. Other than that, I can't remember if others had them, gave them or what have you. I think they are overrated. I would much rather spend the money on something else for the guests to enjoy during the reception instead of after the fact.
Unlike PPs, I remember what most of the favors have been at the weddings I've been to in the past 2-3 years. Maybe I just have a good memory.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Favors....Not mandatory : Why do you "hope" this? I personally don't agree or disagree with the whole favor thing, I think It's a fun addition to the wedding and whether or not the guests enjoy it or take them - they're there for the offer... agree with the donation aspect it's not a "favor" to your guests so it really can't be called, "in lieu of favors... blah blah" (although, it's still a nice gesture to donate to a cause that you care about) I'm not knocking that
Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]
I completely agree, I think the whole "in lieu of favors..." saying is tacky and we didn't go that route. I simply meant that I <strong>hope</strong> brides don't feel that favors or manditory or a necessity.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Favors....Not mandatory : I completely agree, I think the whole "in lieu of favors..." saying is tacky and we didn't go that route. I simply meant that I hope brides don't feel that favors or manditory or a necessity.
Posted by ljahns[/QUOTE]
Ohh, I understand :)