Flowers for GMIL/SIL

BMSawa

Is it appropriate to get flowers for the grandmother of the groom and the sister of the groom?  (Neither of which are in the wedding or any part of it).  Or is it something that is really unnecessary?  What have you all done?

MobKaz

I think for the most part, flowers are discretionary.

Grandparents on both sides would typically receive flowers. 

The "traditional" thought is bridal party, parents, and grandparents.  Often, other people that may or may not be recognized are readers, other people involved in the ceremony, or godparents.

When my son married, neither myself or the MOB cared AT ALL about flowers, so the bride and groom skipped them.  As far as SIL's, I can only speak from experience.  When my son married, my daughter was not given flowers, nor did she ever expect to receive them.

For my daughter's wedding, she went the traditional route.  Again, myself and the MOG didn't really care about the flowers.  But since both grandparents hoped/wanted that "recognition", we just decided to "flower" all the usual suspects.  However, we made small sprays of flowers rather than corsages.

fallbride1109

I got flowers for my DH's grandmother and mine.  I don't have an SIL but I have never heard of giving an SIL flowers if she is not serving in the wedding in any way.

kisskiss30

I think that whoever you feel is special enough to receive flowers that's good enough of a reason.  Older family members especially find it endearing to receive them so I would let that guide me.

flower_diva

If the sister in law is the only sibling not participating in the wedding party ,please giver her a token corsage to acknowledge her as family. It is very appropriate to do and will win you brownie points with her and your new family.

Magdala9

My grandmother was part of the wedding party.  She carried a bouquet of calla lilies that was the same as the mothers.  For our sisters/sisters in law, we gave them corsages of roses and callas.  They were not part of the wedding party.  

Sassenach1743

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[QUOTE]If the sister in law is the only sibling not participating in the wedding party ,please giver her a token corsage to acknowledge her as family. It is very appropriate to do and will win you brownie points with her and your new family.
Posted by flower_diva[/QUOTE]

<div>Completely Agree with this!!!</div><div>
</div><div>I am planning my wedding for next June (just got engaged in May) and somehow my future sister in law got wind of the fact that our bridal party will only consist of my Maid of Honor and my fiance's Best Man. She is already offended that we did not include her and her husband in the wedding party and it has caused so much drama that was completely unexpected. We have been apologizing for months but nothing seems to help, they have just blown us off ever since. </div><div>
</div><div>Anyway, I am planning on (and always was) to get her a corsage and her husband a boutonniere, because they are our immediate family. Plus their 3 children are in the wedding so they will get mini bouts and a flower girl wreath. I am hoping that this will be well received and appreciated, but no garuntees. </div><div>
</div><div>Case in point, if you can gage the barometer of drama in your family then do so carefully and pick your battles. If it's one sister and a couple of grandparents, get them flowers it will be well worth it.</div>