Flower List

celticbeauty

Hey Everyone!
I don't know if this was answered recently, but we're looking at who to give flowers to. We have the typical list (basically anyone in the ceremony/upfront), but we're wondering if we need to give flowers to people doing the guestbook, gift table, or card table. Looking at our list, the number of people has gotten long, but we don't know if it is considered bad etiquette to not give them a flower. Input?

Maggie0829

OMG, please don't make people work the guestbook, gift table or card table.  These are not things that need people babysitting.  The guestbook will not grow legs and walk away.  Adults are smart enough to know that they sign their names to the guestbook, place their gift on the table and pick up their escort cards from wherever they will be.

If you cut these "jobs" (they are sh*ty jobs by the way and make those doing them feel like they weren't good enough to actually be in the wedding) your list of people will shrink a lot.

celticbeauty

Thank you for your opinion. My question still stands as we have made other decisions for our wedding. We are planning on giving these people thank yous for helping, but do they need flowers on top of that?

Maggie0829

No...because they shouldn't be doing these silly jobs in the first place.  I would rather my guests have fun at my wedding then being stuck behind a table telling intelligent adults what they need to be doing for things in which a monkey could figure out for themselves.

dogsandfrogs

I don't agree with Maggie's approach to the question, but I do have to side with the principle of her message.  You don't need anyone to work those tables, and all that does is mean someone you've wanted to involve in the wedding is actually put in a position where they can't even enjoy being there.

As a matter of who "needs" flowers, that is really a matter of opinion and social circle.  For us, it made sense for the bridesmaids to have bouquets, the groomsmen and fathers to have boutonnieres, and the mothers to have corsages.  Some people feel they should give corsages and boutonnieres to the grandparents as well.  We would have also gotten boutonnieres for the ushers, but we aren't having any.

I hope that answers your question, but I also hope you'll reconsider having people you've asked to share your day with you stand guard over your reception tables.

melb2013

I don't think it is necessary.  Even giving flowers to the other people really depends on the family.  Our mothers didn't want corsages, so we're not doing that either.

I also agree that you don't need people to over look those tasks.  It's just not needed and if someone asked me to do that, I'd be annoyed.

kmclean29

sometimes pocket swatches in a colored fabric or fabric flower are a nice alternative.  But you don't HAVE to give a bout to everyone.  I don't think it would be considered bad etiqutte.