insight? help! will this look stupid and am I nuts?

ivedonethisb4

So...this is what happens during wedding planning and its midnight and you're trying to sleep and your mind is going 90-to-nothing... My BMs will have blue dresses and will carry pink bouquets..but I was thinking...I don't have to be limited to the same thing they have only a larger scale....ultimately I can do whatever floats my boat..and I started thinking about a white boquet..with 5 roses in it..4 pink ones and 1 red one. (even though I plan to have no other red anywhere else) The roses would each stand for someone in my life who should be here for this but isn't. The pinks for Both my Grandfathers, My maternal Grandmother and my aunt....and the 1 red for my Dad. Red roses were his favorite flower and the red would stand out in the boquet the way his absence will stand out to me on that day...I thought of writing something to be read during the ceremony or to be printed near the guestbook in explanation...but will that look stupid or be stupid? I guess I'm not one for lighting memorial candles or having just the names printed in the program...and I've never seen anything done like that before. I was trying to think of a way to honor my Dad and the more I thought about it....I kept thinking but there are so many other special people in my life who can't be here too and they should be honored as well....any thoughts suggestions or ideas?

katehar01

I think it's a beautiful and touching idea.  What a wonderful way to honor your dad.  I think it will look lovely....I'm considering doing a little pop of yellow in my bouquets and not anywhere else (although for completely decorative reasons.)  Besides, you'll be so beautiful, no one's going to get thrown off by one flower!  Just my 2 cents:)

flower_diva

the sentiment is really nice.....BUT...the one red rose will stand out like a sore thumb and will be the focal point .......I saw pictures of a bride who did this and it looked like a big boob.........perhaps you can use color to represent the people and have multiple flowers in that color........sorry I think it would look dumb

osubuckigrl78

I dont think it would look bad....if that is something that has meaning to you.... That is all that matters.... I have also seen where people place roses on a pew or the seat in which your grandparents, and father would have sat, if they were there....Maybe you could use pink for your 2 pinks for your Grandfathers, Yellow for your aunt and Grandmother, and red for your dad...That way you would have several colors.... OR::: How about doing YOUR bouquet in all roses...and you could have all white and then 5 red??? I dont think that would look bad....I would just suggest that you place the explaination in several places....maybe printed and in a frame next to the guest book as you stated, along with print something in your  program as well in case someone misses the sign on the guest table....

LuckyGirl1713

i think the red rose is a wonderful sentiment but the single red rose is going to stick out especially in photographs.  Although I"m not sure how else to pull this off because I think it is really meaningful.  Maybe have a red rose pin on the ribbon or handle  of your bouquet and that way you can keep that forever. 

smartlypretty

I have seen people tie a small picture on to their bouquet. I thought that was super sweet.