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DFWIndian

I have one...

I don't understand people who will get so mad at people who don't RSVP they are going to count any "non-recieved" RSVPs as a no. You can't call them?? Obviously you wanted them there for a reason. Yes, it sucks they can't stick a pre-stamp piece of paper in the mail, but come on no reason to go crazy on them. Also, if they verbally tell you no we won't or yes then trust me they don't feel the need to send in said little card. Just mark it down and go on with your day. No reason to go back to them and say, "I won't count your if I don't get the RSVP Card back." Really??

professorscience

I flame the following things: oversleeping, Benadryl, and subs who don't pick up jobs.

DFWIndian

Seriously, TK is messing up again.. It's doing the negative time thing again.

Realized I'm in a bad mood.. I'll work on that before tonight.

sparklingdiamond

Yea, I definitely called, texted and sent FB messages.  But I wasn't so nice about those who never responded to those.  I filled their spots, so if they had shown up they would've been out of luck!

llc2011

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[QUOTE]I have one... I don't understand people who will get so mad at people who don't RSVP they are going to count any "non-recieved" RSVPs as a no. You can't call them?? Obviously you wanted them there for a reason. Yes, it sucks they can't stick a pre-stamp piece of paper in the mail, but come on no reason to go crazy on them. Also, if they verbally tell you no we won't or yes then trust me they don't feel the need to send in said little card. Just mark it down and go on with your day. No reason to go back to them and say, "I won't count your if I don't get the RSVP Card back." Really??
Posted by DFWIndian[/QUOTE]

<div>This made me laugh because I remember a girl on my month board said it was "tacky" to call people that didn't respond and that she would just count them all as no.  Please!  I called, emailed, FB messaged and texted anyone we didn't hear from.</div><div>
</div><div>Now I will say there was one guest who never turned in the call, or responded to 2 calls/messages from my dad so we ended up just marking her as a no. She was still bitter that we told her she couldn't bring her kids.</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: Almost forgot my flame.  Thanks Chase reps for telling me that I just needed to use my new cards at an ATM to activate the pins.  That didn't work, so now I have to wait for the branch to open to reset them..</div>

MarieSD

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[QUOTE]I called, emailed, FB messaged and texted anyone we didn't hear from. Now I will say there was one guest who never turned in the call, or responded to 2 calls/messages from my dad so we ended up just marking her as a no.
Posted by llc2011[/QUOTE]

Agreed with PPs -- I always knew I'd be following up with people after the RSVP date, so it didn't really phase me that half our guest list hadn't responded by the due date. But, those people that I did reach out to via FB message, text, calls, etc and they never responded at all? That is just annoying. 

I was too nice - I left some buffer room in our food numbers so if those people had some good reason for ignoring me but showed up anyway, they could eat. And, no, none of them showed, but I think extras were donated to a food bank, so at least someone benefited from it.

juliebug1997

I am seriously addicted to the song "I'm Not Going to Teach Your Boyfriend How to Dance with You" that Glee did the other night.  I think I listened to it for at least an hour yesterday.

professorscience

Thanks to the AP test, my morning classes are all but empty.  I'm expecting 7 kids (6 girls, 1 boy) in one class.

It is a welcome relief from normally teaching 30+ kids. 

KitsunaRi

Oh boy do I have one today!!! This is my grrr face  >:/

I am so sick and tired of my FSIL. Which is sad because I met FI through her. Everyone has to bend to her will because she will throw a temper tantrum or she just randomly gets pissed off at the smallest thing. I feel so bad for her husband because she picks on him and then throws a huge fit just because he'll want to do something she doesn't. Every weekend FI and I go out to Lunch or Dinner with his parents and his sister's family, and every weekend picking out where we eat is a battle because she is SO PICKY. And it's to the point now where she barely eats anyway because of the *coughtcrazycough* meds she takes but she still fights us and won't let us eat anywhere new, hole in the wall or something that would possibly have food she doesn't like. And if we should dare go somewhere she doesn't like she will be SO embarassing and start complaining about every little thing down to the decoration of the bathrooms and does it loudly! She is also trying to make all these ridiculous suggestions for our wedding and is demanding that even though she would be on FI's side as a groomswoman that she should get to wear special clothes and must have a top hat. And then, this weekend is my graduation and she refuses to wear anything nice because she doesn't own any nice clothes and wouldn't wear them anyway. AUGH. I am seriously considering taking my mother's advice and having our wedding in Hawaii where only our parents and my MOH could be there and I wouldn't have to deal with her picking fights and wearing something unplanned just because she 'felt like it'.

Ahhhhhhh /><

MarieSD

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[QUOTE]I am seriously addicted to the song "I'm Not Going to Teach Your Boyfriend How to Dance with You" that Glee did the other night.  I think I listened to it for at least an hour yesterday.
Posted by juliebug1997[/QUOTE]

I haven't heard this song yet, since I'm two weeks behind on Glee because of the wedding/honeymoon. But I confess I listen to "Marry You" on the Glee soundtrack every day. And I also included it in my list of songs for the wedding video -- my DH doesn't know this yet, and he will laugh at me for it.

I also admit I've misted up a few times at the Glee rendition of "Teenage Dream"  because it just sounds so beatiful. Then I stop and remember it's a Katy Perry song, and I'm a bit ashamed of myself. But ... there it is.

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I haven't heard this song yet, since I'm two weeks behind on Glee because of the wedding/honeymoon. But I confess I listen to "Marry You" on the Glee soundtrack every day. And I also included it in my list of songs for the wedding video -- my DH doesn't know this yet, and he will laugh at me for it. I also admit I've misted up a few times at the Glee rendition of "Teenage Dream"  because it just sounds so beatiful. Then I stop and remember it's a Katy Perry song, and I'm a bit ashamed of myself. But ... there it is.
Posted by MarieSD[/QUOTE]
Oh, I'm not a Katy Perry fan either but I love the way Rachel sang "Firework".  And I loved "Marry You" too.  I will mist up during "Last Christmas" because that's the one where Finn told Rachel it was over. 

DFWIndian

Julie, I need to catch up too! I've been really behind. I love the Marry Me song and I want to us it at the wedding at some point. I just don't know where.

MarieSD

I love that I have fellow Glee fans here. Yes, I know I'm doing FFF wrong.

To follow up on the other day's daily thread, I checked with my church and yes, they mailed my marriage license, and it can take between 4-6 weeks to get it back. (Tarrant County). This after hearing you ladies in Denton County got it back in 1 week! I'm so jealous now.

I hope it doesn't really take that long. I'm ready to start signing my new name!

DFWIndian

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[QUOTE]I love that I have fellow Glee fans here. <strong>Yes, I know I'm doing FFF wrong</strong>. To follow up on the other day's daily thread, I checked with my church and yes, they mailed my marriage license, and it can take between 4-6 weeks to get it back. (Tarrant County). This after hearing you ladies in Denton County got it back in 1 week! I'm so jealous now. I hope it doesn't really take that long. I'm ready to start signing my new name!
Posted by MarieSD[/QUOTE]

Who cares?? Really it takes that long? Sucks! I'm in Tarrant too so I guess I'll have to wait a month or more. Luckily FI's dad will just mail the license.

nickandmerritt

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[QUOTE] <strong>And it's to the point now where she barely eats anyway because of the *coughtcrazycough* meds </strong>she takes but she still fights us and won't let us eat anywhere new, hole in the wall or something that would possibly have food she doesn't like.
Posted by KitsunaRi[/QUOTE]

KitsunaRi, I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time with your FSIL. I just wanted to say though, and feel free to flame me, all of you, that the bolded part above seems really insensitive to me. As someone who takes medication for post-traumatic stress disorder and who has several close friends and family members who take "crazy" meds, I just think this is really problematic. Not even really because of the language you are using but because of your derogatory tone and the idea that this is something you have to say while coughing. I'm assuming it came across this way because of your frustration with your FSIL in particular and not because you are intentionally trying to be derogatory towards people with psychological and emotional illesses. For your sake, if you haven't ever had to experience this kind of illness or the side effects of medication for these kinds of illnesses, then I really hope that you never have to. I'm not saying in any way that her behavior is excusable, but please don't perpetuate the assumption that illness is in itself synonymous with being a BSC, selfish a-hole.

And since I'm probably going to get flamed anyway, I'm just going to put this out there as well.

I strongly disagree with the use of the word "rape" as a metaphor for anything.

And I also don't think that a man wanting grape cake or a particular color scheme says anything about his sexuality. Honestly, I find that kind of policing of masculinity to be just really antiquated, heterosexist, and gross really.

KitsunaRi

Considering she herself calls them her crazy meds, I don't feel the need to apologize for anything. And it's not like I specified what type of meds so they may not even be anything your remotely concerned with.

nickandmerritt

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[QUOTE]Considering she herself calls them her crazy meds, I don't feel the need to apologize for anything. And it's not like I specified what type of meds so they may not even be anything your remotely concerned with.
Posted by KitsunaRi[/QUOTE]

I don't think you need to apologize either. I don't understand saying that through a cough though if you're normalizing it and if that's the language she uses.

But besides that I don't think you really got my point, which is perfectly fine.

KendallandAlbert

I flame myself for unblocking things.  *fixes it*

Nothing to flame for me today.  I am in a happy mood

KitsunaRi

I typed it like that because that's how we jokingly say it around her and that is how they are refered to as. And your point was that I shouldn't be offensive towards people with illnesses or issues or consider that everyone who has one is a bitch. And I don't because I'm surrounded by plenty, the fact is though her meds do actually raise her irritability and anger levels and in fact make her one but she has always been one to begin with. And my point is, you shouldn't just assume things.

DFWIndian

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Agreed with PPs -- I always knew I'd be following up with people after the RSVP date, so it didn't really phase me that half our guest list hadn't responded by the due date. But, those people that I did reach out to via FB message, text, calls, etc and they never responded at all? That is just annoying.  <strong>I was too nice - I left some buffer room in our food numbers so if those people had some good reason for ignoring me but showed up anyway, they could eat. And, no, none of them showed, but I think extras were donated to a food bank, so at least someone benefited from it.
</strong>Posted by MarieSD[/QUOTE]

That is way to nice. If I've made every effort possible to get a hold of them and I can't then I'll call it a no. It's great they let you donate it. I don't think our venue will allow it. I guess the things that happen with a larger hotel.

bsn1752

Oh look.  N&M on FFF.  Controversial topic.  Nothing WR to add.

KendallandAlbert

I flame Brianna for taking the words out of my mouth.  I wonder if Kits FSIL had an issue with changing her name? :X

DFWIndian

Offically what time and where are we meeting tonight??

MarieSD

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : That is way to nice. If I've made every effort possible to get a hold of them and I can't then I'll call it a no. It's great they let you donate it. I don't think our venue will allow it. I guess the things that happen with a larger hotel.
Posted by DFWIndian[/QUOTE]

I know, it wasn't necessary at all, but I'm an overthinker. Plus I think I added 4 entrees and there were about 7 people that I really wasn't sure if they were coming or not. A couple were people that might or might not bring dates; they'd been changing their mind constantly, so I just in the end added extra to I didn't worry about running out if they changed their minds again.

But we'd budgeted for 150 guests and only had 70 RSVP yes, so I definitely had the wiggle room with our budget.

KitsunaRi

I now flame the forums for going through the matrix and saying things were being posted but then not show up @_@ woah.

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Brianna, I just feel like that's incredibly unnecessary. This is not a WR thread. Other people are allowed to come in and comment on things that annoy them, isn't that the whole point?
Posted by nickandmerritt[/QUOTE]

Well, I find showing up to a wedding board where you don't normally post anything WR just to stir the pot incredibly unnecessary.  Except on FFF, when it's "okay" to do that? 

Makes 0 sense.

KendallandAlbert

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[QUOTE]Actually my FSIL married her husband after they had known each other for a week and just ran up to Oklahoma to the Court House and married there. And I have no idea what N&M stand for or if I should be offended '' />> I didn't want to cause an argument I was just frustrated about something and then it gets picked at.
Posted by KitsunaRi[/QUOTE]

A lot of us have N&M blocked strictly because of this.  She rarely (although it's been getting a teeny bit better) comments on anything WR but ALWAYS comments on something controversial.

As someone engaged to someone on "crazymeds",  I don't find your post offensive at all.  I think it was a well deserved flame :D If it helps, I have a FSIL who isn't as picky, but she always does things last second despite people's plans :(

FebDallasBride

Re: Tonight

I will be at SMG L-ville at 6:30

I have nothing today, except I caved and made a doctor appt for tomorrow afternoon cause my ears are still bothering me.

KendallandAlbert

Oh Hell, TK is doing that posts out of order thing again *curses*

KitsunaRi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : A lot of us have N&M blocked strictly because of this.  She rarely (although it's been getting a teeny bit better) comments on anything WR but ALWAYS comments on something controversial. As someone engaged to someone on "crazymeds",  I don't find your post offensive at all.  I think it was a well deserved flame :D If it helps, I have a FSIL who isn't as picky, but she always does things last second despite people's plans :(
Posted by KendallandAlbert[/QUOTE]

The world makes sense now. Thank you <3 And I'm pretty sure FSIL does things out of spite too! In fact she's admitted to it a few times!!! Drives me nuts! Maybe I need some crazy meds too after this!!!! Ahhhh.

And the forums are still totally buggy...maybe it's just my browser (totally almost typed bowser...I need video game time) or weird work settings.

MarieSD

My two cents -- Maybe we should change FFF to another variation -- like Chit Chat Friday. Most of the current knotties don't tend to flame particular people. I think that's the issue that's going on today is all -- most of us don't actually want to flame people directly, especially not people on our own board. (Flaming general, non-specific "people who didn't respond to my RSVP-related text messages" excepted).

With the current title of FFF, N&M, you're right that you're interpreting what the thread means. It's just that I think that a lot of us don't take it that way, so it's a little abrupt shift when we flame traffic or the weather and then you call out a specific person.

So, again I say maybe we should just change it to not be FFF if that's not what the majority wants it to be. I don't think anyone gets called out on OL Tuesdays or AW Thursdays, but we've had problems on FFF in the past too.