What songs do I need???

kbowes85

I need some help... my FI and I have chosen our processional and bride's processional songs, father/daughter dance...and our first dance (if I can convince him to hit the dance floor with me- that's still up in the air)...but that's it! What else do I need to pick?? He's not doing a dance with his mother.

My mom wants me to incorporate Mama's Song by Carrie Underwood- but I don't know where to put that in either.

Is there a list of what songs I need choose??

[Deleted User]

Please don't make him do a first dance song if he doesn't want to. It looks like you have about 6 months between now and your wedding, so you still have plenty of time. He may come around by that time and decide he wants one. I would just drop it for now and re-approach him again in a few months. I know our final DJ song list did not have to be submitted to our DJ until a few weeks before the actual wedding.

kbowes85

Okay, I'm just trying to get an idea for what things I need songs for...

almgcb

What about recessional music for you and your new hubby and the rest of the wedding party and parents?

Cake cutting song?

nbrinkley

You'll probably want specific songs for when y'all arrive at your reception, leave your reception, for the cake cutting, etc. etc, just any other special moments. But all of this is totally up to you and your FI- that's the beauty of it! There's no hard-and-fast rule for what you do or don't need to do. I love Mama's Song, but I don't know when would be the best time to play it. For your ceremony, do you have your recessional songs picked out, as well? Also, something for when your guests are waiting for the wedding to begin and while they are exiting the ceremony would be appropriate. I hope that helped at least a little bit... Happy planning!

kbowes85

Super helpful ladies! Thank you!

What type of song do you do for cake cutting?? Fast and celebratory or slow and sweet... is something traditionally done?

@Stagemanager- he's simply not a dancer. period. end of story.
He grew up being told that dancing was sinful in nature- as he got older, he formed his own (more liberal) opinion- but his parents and grandparents are still very conservative...so, not only is he uncomfortable with being in the spotlight and dancing to begin with- but he more importantly- doesn't want to offend his parents & grandparents...I, on the other hand, want to party! I honestly believe that if I spoke to his side of the family about how important to me it is to have that special moment that maybe they would understand that things have changed over the years...idk. He is willing to bend for me- but I don't want him to be uncomfortable either...

Robyn5298

Do you think your fiance would feel more comfortable if you took some private dance lessons together?  My husband and I had three 30 minute sessions and now we can foxtrot like nobody's business.  I know we both felt a lot more comfortable up there because we knew what we were doing and had rehearsed it a bunch.

EDIT: Sorry, I missed the part about it being a conservative religious thing.  I think you're right that its worth a shot speaking to his family together.  But if they're dead set against it, well that really stinks but its not a good idea to start off your marriage by offending your in-laws.  Good luck!