Can I vent for a second?

abwatts

Hey y'all, I am new to the board, not engaged (YET) and live in the Dallas area and have been lurking for a little bit So Hi!

I just need to vent.. my BF and I have always had opposite schedules. I work a typical 9-5 and he works 2-9ish. It has always worked out for us, it gives me time in the evenings to get my workout in, and have no excuses, and it has really worked out when we got a puppy. Our dogs are never home alone that long. But the summers SUCK!

He works in Aquatics at the YMCA and is a swim coach. Come May I never see him. His weekends are filled with lifeguard instructor training, or swim meets. I usually take the opportunity to get some quality time in with my sister, and we love to lay out by the pool. But this weekend it just got to me. He hasn't had a day off in over a month. Se he gets home right as I am falling asleep on the couch, and then he is gone all weekend long.

I know there are people out there whose SO are overseas, and I just have so much admiration for their strength. But It did really get to me this weekend, I was just lonely and bored, and all I wanted to do was be with my man! It bothers him just as much as it bothers me, but what can you do about it you know?

I'm trying to stop the pity party... looking forward to the end of June when he has a Sunday off, and trying to keep some perspective!!!

Thanks for letting me vent, and if you know of anyone wanting to hire a fantastic swim coach/instructor that would allow him to be home nights and weekend hit me up!!!

professorscience

I'm so sorry.  For the first six months of our marriage, my H and I have lived 500 miles apart, seeing each other roughly every other weekend.  I totally understand what you mean by being okay MOST of the time, and then just losing it sometimes.

Hang around!  My husband and I are finally nearing the end of this living situation and I would not have made it without the great friends I have made on this board!

cwaggoner07

FI and I were also long distance (like, texas to california) for a year and a half while he went to film school and it suuuuucked.
The best advice I can give is not to sit and dwell and think too much. It seemed every time we got into a fight, I could trace my frustrations not to something he did, but rather a few moments in the car or in the shower where I worked myself into a frenzy.

nextrightthing

Awww, I know this is rough.  FI and I worked opposite schedules and I've been in law school for the past two years (and a single mom!), so our times together were always at night when I was falling asleep and he was just getting off work.  One benefit to it is we look forward to our time together so much more and really enjoy things like having coffee together in the morning. 

abwatts

Aww thanks guys for the support. Its true most of the time its fine.. it just gets taxing I guess is the right word.

Like Saturday he was suppossed to be home by 5 (which is early for us) and we were going to go to dinner and a movie. I got dressed, straightened my hair and was even wearing heels! 5 rolls around.. nothing.. he calls an is in highway closing traffic, doesnt know how long its going to take him, oh and he has to run by the Coppell office still to pick something up for the next day. I may have been snapping at him, I felt bad, but I was frusterated. He takes it though and doesnt snap back. He knows its jsut cause I love him and really value every minute we get to spend together! I did the nice GF ting and went to Coppell for him while he was stuck in traffic (we live in The Colony.. so only about 15 minutes away) so that he could just ocme straight home to me.. I felt that made up for my snapping at him.. but come on.. HEELS

PJBHL5

Ugh, I feel you. It sucks.
When FI and I met he was in Afghanistan and I was in DFW. Now he's 2 hours away but I get to see him on wednesday evenings and most weekend. It's hard for sure.

abwatts

He did take the day off today (since he hasnt had one in weeks) and took me out to lunch,a nd we will at least to get to spend this evening together and I wont be asleep when he gets home!

Thanks for letting my B&M