Overwhelmed

Caitlynmk

Is anyone else getting overwhelmed/stressed at this point?? Work has been very busy for me so I've been dulling out responsibilities to any poor soul who asks if they can help. haha! My to-do lists are on like 15 different pieces of paper thrown about my office, I keep forgetting to do normal things like pay the cell phone bill, and I'm just scatterbrained... which is total opposite from my normal, organized self. I also keep getting knots in my shoulder and back muscles, so I started going to yoga and pilates classes but I can't fight the stress that I'm going to forget to do something or pay a vendor. Ah! I'm very excited though

Nissy706

Yes, i totally am.  I had to do my DIY invites solo since FI was out of town and they needed to be done and mailed by Saturday.  I am also working on my DIY cake topped which requires me to glue over 1400 small crystals on it.  It's all going to be awesome just really furstrating right now.

Mishe+Neo

Things have calmed down on my end significantly...there is light at the end of the tunnel, ladies! I am handing my wedding off to my planner on the 19th, and it cannot get here soon enough. After sending the invites, everything else is a waiting game. Ya know, I used to watch Bridezillas and wonder what in the world is wrong with these ladies. But now, even though I think many of them still have a significant amount of issues, that some of these girls were normal women before their wedding happened to them. Lol!

LaurandNick

I'm definitely getting overwhelmed... Our invites are going out this weekend so I'm trying to focus on that for now but there are so many small things to do and people to pay. We are also trying to buy a house right now so that adds another layer of stress and another to-do list!  I know everything will turn out great... it's just a little stressful for now.

Caitlynmk

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I'm definitely making sure I don't turn into a bridezilla, but like Mishe said, I now see what they were going through (to a point)! haha! Good luck ladies!!

jcsangelpen

Some days I think I'm losing my mind, and my wedding is a really small and simple event compared to what a lot of you ladies have shared about yours! Because I don't have a planner, I am trying to do a ton by myself, and that's a lot of pressure. I'm having a hard time deciding on things like food and decor because those aren't my strongest areas. It would be nice to have someone to take those over completely, but I'm trying to just have friends help out. I am excited for the day, but totally looking forward to it being over!

jennipea382

I know the feeling 100%. I went full time at my job (finally!!!) in October, so I've had less free time. Christmas just made things more tight since I was trying to find time to do both wedding things and buying/wrapping gifts. I was starting to feel better but a friend of ours passed away on Wednesday so I don't think either of us has felt like doing a whole lot of wedding things (though we still are, I suppose it helps keep our minds off of everything). Our invitations are almost ready to go out, so that will be one HUGE weight off of our shoulders. Next is booking the honeymoon. We found better prices than the travel agent did so we are waiting to find out if they offer any sort of price matching.

Once those things are done I have to find some time for both of us to get to the court house to get our marriage license. It's almost impossible because I work until 5pm and he works odd hours, but we'll figure it out. Oh, and we need to get our officiant ordained (a friend is performing the ceremony). Then it's mostly just little details. I'm starting to calm down but ugh, I was SO completely overwhelmed there for a while! So yes, I've been there!

Mishe+Neo

@Laura, home buying is significantly more stressful than the wedding for sure. We closed a month ago, and let me tell you...there was a side of me that I met during that whole process (and she was a little on the crazy side). All of the stress will def be worth it in the end.

jennipea382

Thank you Sleeper.

Also, totally agree. I'm such a people pleaser that I had a hard time at first not taking ideas from other people. But I think I made the decision at some point that I'm only doing this once, so I'm going to do it the way we want to. I think that's one of my biggest stressors - trying to balance doing things our way but also making sure our guests will have a great time. I'm confident they will but there have been a lot of tough decisions!

And the money thing.. ugh, totally. We have been trying to do things as cheap as we can while still doing the things we really want. Definitely tough. I budgeted for everything but then things end up being more expensive than I thought they'd be. Luckily some things have ended up cheaper, so I'm hoping it all balances out in the end!

Caitlynmk

I agree with the money thing also- FI and I are paying for everything ourselves and luckily we have been able to save a lot but it just keeps going to all of our vendors!! We are ready for it to be done too, I can't wait to be able to visit my family without having to cram 15 appointments or meetings into a 4 day trip!!

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I am too overwhelmed to type at this point LOL but I hear all of you! I am in the same boat and felling overwhelmed everyday. Even with a wedding coodinator there are still so many decisions to make.

mchasko

I have had so much fun planning my wedding, but this past week I have wanted nothing to do with the whole affair! We started getting RSVPs back in the mail, and I just can't help but feel rejected by all of the people not coming. I know that's crazy, but it's a real downer. I have to keep reminding myself that just because it's the most important day of my life, it's maybe not financially feasible for my guests, or maybe they can't travel, have family issues, or whatever. It's making me question the whole thing. Here I am planning this great event, and people don't want to come!