Confusing Situation

Janna2012

Alright so here's the long story... 

We moved to Boston and became pretty great friends with this couple. About 9 months later they move to Texas for a job. We are all sad but hopeful that we'll hang out again. 3 months after that I get engaged. They of course made the list of invitees, even tho they lived far away. We were generally talking and txting and staying in touch. We even sent them a save the date a few months ago. Now I've learned through facebook that the couple is no longer together. He's moved on to a new woman. Haven't talked to either of them about it. Neither of them aknowledged that they recieved the save the date or reached out to us. 

At this point, should I really be sending them an invite to the wedding? 

jennipea382

Honestly, it's really up to you. If you want to continue to be friends (or reconnect with them at all), I'd send them both an invitation. I'd probably expect one or both of them to decline though. By sending them an invitation, you're kind of throwing the ball into their court. It's then up to them to decide if they want to go, and whether or not they are ok with their ex being there (possibly with a new person). It's an awkward situation but I don't think it would hurt to invite them both anyways unless you're truly ok with the fact that they've moved on and you may no longer have a friendship with them. Just something to think about. Good luck!

Caitlynmk

 I agree with the PPs, if they got a save the date, you should send them an invite. A similar situation like this happened with 2 of our guests and we're still inviting them. They will make their own decision whether or not to come.

Janna2012

Thanks everyone. I know the right thing to do is to invite them and we probably will. It's just so frustrating that they have basically dropped off the planet. Everytime and every way I try to contact either of them gets no response. ugh. 

jennipea382

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[QUOTE]Thanks everyone. I know the right thing to do is to invite them and we probably will. It's just so frustrating that they have basically dropped off the planet. Everytime and every way I try to contact either of them gets no response. ugh. 
Posted by Janna2012[/QUOTE]

I know that feeling all too well! I felt like I had so many friends in college and now I barely talk to most of them. It's mostly because we're all busy and most of them moved away, but it does suck. Hopefully they will make it to the wedding so you can reconnect!