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fallbride1109

I do not understand why so many brides feel they have to provide "entertainment" for their guests.  Adults do not need to be entertained at weddings.  Put the money into the food and the bar and I assure you your money will be better spent.

I also don't understand cheaping out on your wedding photographer.  And I never will.

I have found that most vendors are happy to work with any budget.  It's wedding season.  Pick up the phone and call them.

JessAndColton

I flame TK for not having a "LiKE" button. haha.  So often I want to "like" someone's post and forget that doesn't work. 

That being said...I flame myself for what I am ABOUT to do.  (I am whacking my hair off).  I have been wanting to do it for a while now, but I keep chickening out.  Now I have made an appointment and even told people so I will be held accountable (I am donating it to Locks of Love though, so that is why I am really going through with it now).  

fallbride1109

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[QUOTE]I flame TK for not having a "LiKE" button. haha.  So often I want to "like" someone's post and forget that doesn't work.  That being said...I flame myself for what I am ABOUT to do.  (<strong>I am whacking my hair off</strong>).  I have been wanting to do it for a while now, but I keep chickening out.  Now I have made an appointment and even told people so I will be held accountable (I am donating it to Locks of Love though, so that is why I am really going through with it now).  
Posted by JessAndColton[/QUOTE]

Noooooo!  I feel ill.  :(

Good for you for donating it though.  My husband did the same thing when he cut his.  His was probably almost as long as yours, heh.

KendallandAlbert

I commend you on doing it for a good cause.  You are a better woman than I am.  If I had hair like that I would be selfish with it and keep it forever.

ETA: Stephie, please tell me there are before photos because I just can't picture it!

FebDallasBride

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[QUOTE]<strong>Eww Wendi boo @ them!</strong> We are having a late reception 8:30pm but are planning on 5 large action stations and an open bar :D I am hoping that is enough
Posted by KendallandAlbert[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it was my cousin's wedding so it's not like I can bitch without it getting back to her. Oh and I got a facebook message from her last week telling me she's prego... Due Feb 13. I'm not bitter. LOL

fallbride1109

Ben in his band days. 


I think this is 2007--he cut his hair the next year before he proposed. 

KendallandAlbert

Ya know, it makes me sad when a man can grow a better head of hair than I can :P

JessAndColton

I love my hair when I curl it or blow dry it.  It is just a lot of work, so I nomally just wear it all natural and it is so think I look like Cousin It from behind. Haha.  It is literally down to my butt, so when I use the bathroom, I have to put it up or pull it to the side.  I am cutting about 12 inches off, so it will still be long.  I just want to look at pictures of me from behind and see my waist. lol.  I have always wanted to donate my hair though and after reading the stories of the kids without hair who got it and how it changed their lives and looked at pictures on the website, I cried my eyes out and decided I should give it up so someone else who hasn't had a compliment on their hair in years can see what it feels like again.  I will probably grow it back out.  My husband and I were talking about it and I realized I have been growing it for 8 year.  WOW. 

fallbride1109

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[QUOTE]Ya know, it makes me sad when a man can grow a better head of hair than I can :P
Posted by KendallandAlbert[/QUOTE]
Hee, well he can't anymore which is another reason why he cut it!

KendallandAlbert

hah!  Albert is losing the front area of his hair.  He said if it gets too bad he is demanding a hat of some sort for the wedding so he doesn't feel old.

JessAndColton

Stephie!  Thanks for sharing those!! How funny. :0)  There's a firefighter on the locks of love website right now that cut his hair.  I think it's great!

teamdynamite

This is my first ever FLAME since I don't live in DFW anymore (KC bride). However, I hired a fabulous Dallas photographer and this is why::

Our e-session was Palm Sunday - APRIL. This is just one example of how terrible I thought my ex-photographers were.

I called the photographerlast Tuesday since I haven’t received an email from them about when I could pick up our save-the-dates. They answered, I explained to them who I was and asked if someone would be there so that I can finally get my STD’s. Man on phone said, “Of course, we’ll be home all day”…. Me: “Okay, if you’re going to be home all day, how hard would it have been to send a reply message to at least one of the messages I sent to you asking when someone would be available for us to pick these up?” …. Silence. I interrupted the prolonged silence with “So, someone will be home and I can just come by any time this afternoon?” man: “Well, no, we’re not going to wait at home all day just for you” …. ((did he not just tell me he was going to be home 'all day')) “We have errands and other responsibilities to take care of. If you give us an exact time of when you can come, we will try to be here” … TRY />??? Again, did he not just say someone would be home all day?? So frustrated. So I told him I get an hour for lunch and would "try" to be there around 12:30…Since it takes about 15-20 minutes w/o traffic to get there and I said I'd leave at noon. “””Great – see you then”””


SO, I left my work around noon - no traffic However, there was road construction and the exit I needed to take was blocked due to this. I had to drive three miles to the next exit, turn around, and when I finally got to their house (@12:35), no one came to the door. I went back to my car and waited 15 minutes before they showed up... They pulled into the driveway and said that since I sounded so serious on the phone this morning about getting my STD's and leaving work at noon and it only taking about 15-20 minutes to get there, when I wasn't there right at 12:30, they left to grab a bite to eat for lunch! ((So, I guess they were serious when they said they weren't going to wait around all day for me)) Had they told me the exit was closed, I would have been able to take the previous exit and go the back way and get there at the time I stated.. especially if I knew they were going to make me wait even MORE than I already have. So, fine, they were there and they had my STD's in a cute little brown bag with blue and brown tissue paper. I asked to look at them first.. they let me in... I asked where the envelopes were since I was previously told the envelopes were included. ""I don't know who told you that, but they are not. You're lucky we have extra from another client""... So they reluctantly gave me the envelopes too, then I told them the truth that I just couldn't afford them. After I calculated tax and everything, it was going to end up costing over $5000!!! ($350/hr for wedding, $1500 for only 60 e-pics on CD, and our $350 STD's) Again, he was really short and rude with me and said I would owe them MORE MONEY for cancelling within six months since it has been a few months since I booked. I said very sarcastically "sure thing" and left. I refuse to pay them anymore money.........

I am still waiting for a refund for the different it cost for our save-the-dates... My retainer was $880 - which will only be refunded if they book another wedding or event for Dec 9. It's worth spending the extra money to have peace of mind for my wedding photographs. Leslie Spurlock is who I hired

laurencste

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Call. Negotiate with them. If it takes you having to go in and do it face to face, it will help eliminate the communication issues. I negotiated with our DJ on uplighting (he initially wanted $50 per can, and I worked him down to $22/ can) based on other companies pricing. We ended up not using it, but that would have been a huge savings. That extra effort is sometimes what they appreciate--and they know that will go a long way in making you happy and guaranteeing good word of mouth after the event. Sometimes that extra leg work is what is necessary if you are asking them to go down in price--effort on your part is appreciated. If someone just emailed me asking about doing me a favor but didn't bother to reach out to me personally, I wouldn't be as inclined to bend either.
Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the advice.  For the florist, I just finally allowed her to blow me off and (hopefully) concentrate on the wedding only.  It just irked me that because it was a smaller fee, she decided it wasn't worth her attention.  For the DJ/lighting, we've already booked the lighting at the price they wanted, they just refuse to tell me anything about it or give me a plan.  Which again just seems like them feeling I am not worth their attention since it's a few hundred dollars as opposed to a few thousand, you know?  So, I'll call.  I feel sorry for them now.  Hehe...

KendallandAlbert

Please don't call with the attitude that they are blowing you off.  Remember, we are in the height of wedding season.  They may just be that busy.  When you call, be calm and collected.  If you get angry/frustrated, they will be FAR less inclined to help you.

fallbride1109

Unless you're having your wedding at the Ritz and wearing St. Pucchi, I really don't think cash bars are THAT big of a deal. 

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]Unless you're having your wedding at the Ritz and wearing St. Pucchi, I really don't think cash bars are THAT big of a deal. 
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

True.  But drink tickets for WP only is.

My problem is when people say "well, we're paying for this on our own."  Ok?  So am I.  That doesn't make a difference in my opinion.

KendallandAlbert

I just believe in prioritizing your budget.  If having alcohol is important and you want to have it available to your guests, cut back somewhere else to be able to pay for it.

fallbride1109

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : True.  But drink tickets for WP only is. My problem is when people say "well, we're paying for this on our own."  Ok?  So am I.  That doesn't make a difference in my opinion.
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

I agree.  But I think in most cases, people are doing the best they can in their given situation and/or don't know any better.

laurencste

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[QUOTE]Please don't call with the attitude that they are blowing you off.  Remember, we are in the height of wedding season.  They may just be that busy.  When you call, be calm and collected.  If you get angry/frustrated, they will be FAR less inclined to help you.
Posted by KendallandAlbert[/QUOTE]

Oh, of course.  You ALWAYS catch more flies with honey, etc.  I guess my main frustration is the attitude some vendors seem to have where if you aren't spending a ton, you're not worth their time. 

FebDallasBride

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Oh, of course.  You ALWAYS catch more flies with honey, etc.  I guess my main frustration is the attitude some vendors seem to have where if you aren't spending a ton, you're not worth their time. 
Posted by laurencste[/QUOTE]

I ran into this when I was initially planning. Some venues acted as if I was blowing steam up their @$$ cause I was 18 months out and gathering info and asking such detailed questions (when you do it for a living, you tend to have an idea of what to ask up front.) I even had one venue's sales rep sigh loudly in the middle of one of my questions as if I was annoying her. That was that.

professorscience

Punctuation and vowels are your friend.  The end.

Tiffany618

HI Guys

I don't think its required for you to have alcohol and food at a wedding, but if you don't then you need to either have it in the morning or the mid-afternoon, at non-meal times.   I think that's the real key here.

Also, TeamDynamite ... you should probably read your contract because you may indeed owe them more money.  

professorscience

Oh no.

So, camp starts Monday.

We were just told today that one of the rooms we had reserved is no longer available and we need to come up with a Plan B.

But it's Friday and everyone who can do anything about it is going home.

=(

TexanTreasure08

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I agree.  But I think in most cases, people are doing the best they can in their given situation and/or <strong>don't know any better.</strong>
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

That would be fine, except that they come on here and we tell them its a bad idea and they always basically say, "Well so-&-so did it so we're going to do it." Then they do know better and just refuse to host their guests properly.