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Does this make me a Bridezilla?

I don't want anyone else to take photos while my fiance and I get our wedding photos taken.  Is this considered rude and selfish?

We are planning on doing them before the ceremony, and I know that at least one of the people that will be around us and our party will want to take her own pictures.  She isn't a part of the wedding party, but her husband will be in the wedding party.

I am a photographer, and value my photographs a lot.  I want it to be a special moment that my fiance can share between the two of us.  Is it rude to ask everyone in the wedding party to not take photographs while we are getting our photos taken?

Re: Does this make me a Bridezilla?

  • Our photographers actually requested that this be the case- they explained that even though it didn't successfully happen very often they felt that if they at least asked that no one else be taking pictures while they are, then they wouldn't be held liable for not getting shots in which everyone is looking into their camera.

    If you don't want to seem like a bridezilla just appoint someone else to make sure that it happens.
  • My photog doesn't care about other people taking pictures, but to make sure everyone is looking at her camera, she's just going to announce that she'll need to take her pictures first and then others can take theirs. Or that we will all just look at her and not everyone else.

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  • NOT AT ALL!!
    Our photographer actually covered this in his contract. He took charge of potential situations but allowed an opportunity for guest to get a couple posed shots of the 2 of us then explained politely why no more photography was allowed.
    This did not include the ceremony because it can't be controlled and people could do what they wanted at the reception but he did watch out for us.
    Get this, while dancing special dance with my Dad (very emotional-I'm crying- couldn't help it) a relative comes onto the dance floor real close to get us to look at his camera for a pic. Then he wants another. He's bothering me after one, getting in the video, etc. My mom told me this is how the rest went because it's kind of a blur.
    My photog steps onto the floor behind said relative, puts his hand on his shoulder and says something in his ear. Then they backed off the dance floor together as discreetly as possible. My videographer was able to edit out the relative and my photog helped me to remember a very special moment with my dad at my wedding instead of a paparazzi moment that was not supposed to happen.
    An experienced photographer will know how to handle your desires.
  • My dad is actually doing my photos, because I do have trust issues with other photographers and them not getting exactly what I want.

    I know that it will be hard to control, but your suggestions will help me with this issue.  

    Thanks a lot guys!
  • Really ? You were doing ok up till then.
  • Having a family member take the responsibility for taking your photos is really not a good idea. What if he messes up and you land up with no photos, will that affect your relationship with your dad? The reason I am mentioning this is because we see this kind of outcome all the time.  It happened to a cousin of mine. No photos at all, just one muddy brown poorly exposed picture is all she has.  It might not be too late to hire a pro and let your dad enjoy the wedding instead of working the wedding.  I am a successful wedding videographer in the D.C. area and after more than 500 events; I think I am qualified to give you advice.
  • I still say it doesn't make you a Bridezilla, and I would just say because my Dad is not a professional photographer we can't have him fighting for people's attention. To help him take the best pictures we are asking that he be the only one taking pictures during this special time.

    I completely understand wanting your Dad to do the pictures. My aunt takes the best pictures of me and after hearing all these horror stories on this bored it is hard to trust someone you don't know well.
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