How do I handle her...

dominic+kaylee

Im going to try to keep this short! My fiances brothers girlfriend and I do not get along. Too many issues to list! His brother and girlfriend are not married but do have a baby together. They have a horrible off on relationship and she is always trying to compete with me. I have made it clear to my fiance I dont want her in the family photos( he is fine with it) How do I make sure she is not in them? Im not too worried about making my future inlaws mad about it. It might upset them but I have my reasons. Any ideas about what I should do!!!!

toothpastechica

to be honest, if shes as much of a drama queen as she sounds, i would include her in some and not in otheres (can you do one with just sibs and significan others and include her) because if she catches on that you are singling her out, you might have more dramatic issues on your wedding day then just having her in a photo or two. (if you have a good photographer they are going to that thousands of pictures anways, you can talk to them about it and they can remove the ones with her in it in editing.)

LGM22

You could always clue the photographer in and have them be the bad guy.

vexie

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[QUOTE]to be honest, if shes as much of a drama queen as she sounds, <strong>i would include her in some and not in otheres (can you do one with just sibs and significan others and include her) </strong>because if she catches on that you are singling her out, you might have more dramatic issues on your wedding day then just having her in a photo or two. (if you have a good photographer they are going to that thousands of pictures anways, you can talk to them about it and they can remove the ones with her in it in editing.)
Posted by toothpastechica[/QUOTE]

This is great advice :)   Speak with your photographer ahead of time and have him/her be the one who says who is and who isn't in the shot.  ie. 'ok.. all of Groom's family and SO in the picture, now just immediate family members, now just B& G with parents, now just B&G with siblings... etc.  You get the idea. This will allow you to print one off with her in it to make her feel included, but you can only put the ones you want in your photoalbum

dumdumfroggie

I agree, include her in some photos, but not all.  It's possible you could end up being family later on, try to avoid as much drama as possible.

Honestly, it would seem quite chidish of you to pointedly exclude her from all family photos.

RailWayWife

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[QUOTE]I agree, include her in some photos, but not all.  It's possible you could end up being family later on, try to avoid as much drama as possible. Honestly, it would seem quite chidish of you to pointedly exclude her from all family photos.
Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]</strong>


I agree