Confessions!

lesalyric

Julie and I started OL Tuesday at the same time this morning, so let's make this one a confessions post. What do you want to confess? No judgement, just getting it out there to vent or let it go.

Mine - two zilla-ish thoughts:

1. I get a little angry when people send us a $10 gift and add two people to the RSVP card.

2. I wish my family was more excited about the wedding. We have had a lot of crazy drama pop up the last few months and FI and I have been completely overshadowed.

juliebug1997

Why does there have to be so much drama associated with weddings?  I really didn't care if Bill's vest exactly matched my dress. 

Even though we just went to Disney and I'm taking my brother in a few short months, Bill and I are already talking about when we're going to go again AND we've even looked into a cruise.  I think we are turning into Mousejunkies. 

Ever since Mom was sick and then passed away, I've been thinking that I don't want to work.  I feel like I just want to wallow in pity or spend as much time as possible with my dad and brother (and husband too). 

After watching "The Social Network" the other night, I have decided that Bill's parents are exactly like Mark Zuckerberg (or however you spell his name).  They all have no social skills and don't know when to shut up.

BanannaP

I have to confess that...my fiance loves Ke$ha.

Whew, it feels good to get that off my chest!

rcpm44

I'm finding it harder and harder to want to stay here now that the wedding is over. I had mentioned that as the wedding was closer I liked my month board less and less. If it weren't for the fact that this board doesn't only talk about weddings and the fact that there are some weddings I want to see I think I would leave.

bsn1752

I confess that if Renee left us, I would cry.

And Tiffany too.

Well, all of you really.

cfibelkorn

I confess I am fed up with one of my bridesmaids! She has been a horrible bridesmaid, she never responds to me emails or calls, I haven't talked to her in over a month but she still finds time to update her Facebook......we are a month and a half out and she is the only one who still hasn't boughten her dress!!

I am generally a blunt person but I know its a major no-no to kick some one out of your wedding party but MAN am I considering it!

It sucks realizing your friends aren't they great of friends...weddings bring out the worst in people. I know it is MY wedding and no one cares about it as much as I do but try to understand how the bride feels......oh well pay back is a b*tch since Im in her wedding party next year!

[Deleted User]

Some of the people that I thought would be a definate "yes" have yet to even send their RSVP back.  Im really at a loss as to why it is so hard for people to RSVP.

shortgirltx

I like Ke$ha too

Sometimes I wonder if I rely too much on message boards and if I should even be on them anymore since I'm not even planning a wedding anymore but then I realize that I wouldn't have anything to do during the day when I'm not working  

I forgot my one of my grandmothers birthdays last week.  I did call her the next morning though when I reazlied what I did because I couldn't remember when it was.  So I tried asking sneaky questions and found out it was the day before.  For some reason I just cannot remember when it is and google calendar sucks.  I didn't send anything and I don't really feel bad because I'm lucky if I get a phone call from her. 

DFWIndian

I confess I would be really sad if Rene left too!

1. Also, I get excited by office supplies... yes.. I bought new pens and a calendar last night and I'm elated. Nerd tendencies
2. I can't wait to AW my engagement. I know it's wrong, but I can't wait.
3. I confess I want to still strangle people who invite themselves to my wedding. If I don't hang out with you outside of work that does not make us friends, thus you can not come.

sorry done

brincasey

I wish Casey would not reinlist in the ARMY...Don't tell him i said that.

linzcw04

With the holidays coming up I am beginning to realize that I am in wedding planning withdrawals. DH has begun to threaten to put his foot down if I plan one more party/G2G at our house...lol - I can't help myself - I'm sick! I love planning and cooking and spending time with friends and...and....

DFWIndian

Lindsey we will come over! We should plan a holiday G2G!!!

Tiffany618

Renee -  I sympathize.  I want to stop, but so far I just can't.  Plus now everyone's weddings are getting so close it's even harder.  If I didn't have such a boring job I am confident that I could stop.. 

bobbileighb

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_ol-tuesday-50?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:6e1916c8-5e6a-4202-a394-78f540089eeaPost:aa4cefe3-4e33-419d-bc80-0ecbf63ca133">Re: Confessions!</a>:
[QUOTE] I am generally a blunt person but I know its a major no-no to kick some one out of your wedding party but MAN am I considering it! Posted by cfibelkorn[/QUOTE]

After this weekend FI told me to kick his sister out of the wedding and I had to explain to him that I just couldnt that its not right and he said he would do it then.  I wont let him but I confess the thought of it makes me a little happy because he rarely stands up to his family, back to reality I realize its a horrible thing and would never actually be happy about it.

serlace

I'm tired of my BMs, too.  They are not very good at communicating.  It's very frustrating.  My MOH's wedding is this weekend and I have no idea what the plans are.  I've asked her, too.  Like - what time are we getting ready? Do I need to be there on Friday? Etc.  Her response - oh, I don't know. 

Sorry that's really more of a B&M than a confession.

bsn1752

Flame me if you will, but I confess that I actually did kick a BM out of the wedding.

It's a long drawn out ordeal, but it boils down to, she has a child by a man who couldn't care less about being a dad.  He was deployed (and he's not on the birth certificate) and doesn't support either of them, but - she's "in love".  Her job isn't great and she's trying to make it on her own... well, I find out in conversation with her that she wasn't paying her utilities and her excuse? She was "saving for my wedding".  She had to get help from a local church to eventually pay her bills.

Now, I know that it's not my place to tell people how to pay their own bills or live their life... and I went home and got so upset over the situation.  I couldn't stand the idea of someone taking away from their child to pay to be in my wedding.

I had a talk with her and asked her to step down for all of the reasons above.  She was angry and still is, but I just couldn't do it.  I asked her to be in my wedding before I knew her circumstances, she has just been a friend for many years, and I thought that it was a good choice.

Word to the wise - think all the way through your BM decisions before making them.  Being a BM is an investment, both in money and time.... make sure your girls can handle it.

OK - Judge me too for airing all of the dirty laundry out there.  But MAN, that felt good to finally type.

BanannaP

I confess that, between interviews and the wedding, I cannot concentrate at work. If it's this bad now, how bad will it be in another two or three weeks?

bobbileighb

Brianna I dont think thats flame worthy I mean how can someone not take care of their child and tell you its because of you and expect you not to react.

I definately agree with choosing wisely I only have 2 my bestfriend and my FSIL and I thought I would be good but its been hard even with that.  I asked my best friend if she wanted out after we moved to TX because it was a bigger investment than she originally committed to but she said no.  My FSIL is going through a hard time because FFIL and FMIL are possibly getting a divorce so there is added stress and on top of it I have learned she is holding things against me that I had NO control over so I am pretty much doomed.  She has asked me to pay for her dress bc she cannot afford it and I am going to and I just cant bring myself to kick her out because she is family.

juliebug1997

Brianna,
I don't know that I could have looked at you the same way if you hadn't kicked her out. 

I definitely agree about being careful with your wedding party.  I asked my closest friend and that was it.  I didn't ask my FSIL, I didn't ask someone that I went to college with (even though we had both said we would be in each other's weddings).  I kept it simple and drama-free.  You can't always predict who's going to cause drama but I'm glad that I didn't have that going on at the same time.  I feel for you girls who do/did. 

bsn1752

Well, I'm glad that you guys think that I made the right decision.  Obviously, there was alot of drama around the choice, because she thought that I was being spiteful and telling her that she's not responsible enough to be in the wedding (even though, I don't think she is) - but that wasn't what I was saying.

My wedding shouldn't cause anyone to have to sacrifice like that.  It literally had me so upset for several days because I thought that kicking a BM out was a huge no-no and I felt horrible.. but in the long run, I would have felt worse if I had left her in knowing what she was doing.  My FI didn't even need all of the details, once I told him about the not-bill-paying issue, he told me to kick her out immediately.

The last thing I EVER want to do is hurt someone's feelings, but I just felt like it really was the most sound decision for everyone involved.  I know that she's incredibly mad, but hopefully she'll understand my reasoning one day.

danac2010

I confess that I'm a little more than annoyed with FI and his family.  They wait till the last minute for EVERYTHING!  Some of his family are still telling me "we'll see if we can make it' and the wedding is 11days away.  You either know or you don't. 

Also I have a hotel block for them because they all said they needed a room and now none of them are booking rooms.  I got them a really good discount and the shuttle to take them to the venue so they don't get lost and they have decided that if they do come they will just drive in Saturday morning and leave after the wedding.  That's fine and I understand not wanting to spend the money but you could have told me when I had enough time to cancel the block.

I'm also very concerned FI's sister will start some drama at the wedding.  She already started at the shower and I'm sure it will continue.  She is never on time to anything and I'm sure she will waltz in about 25 minutes after the ceremony starts.  I love FI and his family but they need to get with the program!

serlace

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_ol-tuesday-50?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:6e1916c8-5e6a-4202-a394-78f540089eeaPost:7c8a7026-8dd2-4863-8501-065ebe095d62">Re: Confessions!</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that, between interviews and the wedding, I cannot concentrate at work. If it's this bad now, how bad will it be in another two or three weeks?
Posted by BanannaP[/QUOTE]

It gets worse!  :)  And I am SWAMPED at work.  Yet here I am.  On TK.

Brianna, I would have kicked her out to0.  I know that had to have been very hard and stressful, but it really is the best thing to do.

Tiffany618

I agree about the BM's.   Seriously, I chose only 3 people (even though DH had 5) because I didn't want to deal with the drama.

...but STILL... even with my cousin (who is like a sister to me) and my 2 closest friends since childhood but we still hang out all the time...... I had ISSUE AFTER ISSUE AFTER ISSUE.

I know someone that went to Hawaii and got married on the beach.  Paid a witness.    I'm telling you that is the way to go, LOL.

cfibelkorn

Oh I kicked one out already too! But that was because she made an very inappropriate comment about her not wanting her kids around my aunt because she is gay and she doesn't think that is right!!! I nearly punched her in the face!! I was PISSED!

But this one just is horrible at communicating with me...I don't think that is worth kicking her out...just a little annoying to me.

But I agree, think VERY long and hard when choosing your wedding party; several times I have wanted to kick everyone out and just not have any wedding party haha

lesalyric

I confess to extreme registry stalking! I want to stop, but I can't! I need AA for registry addicts.

BanannaP

My BMs have been fantastic. FSIL is going to miss most of my bachelorette party for the Rangers game, but that has been the worst thing so far. FI's attendants, on the other hand... They can't be bothered to plan a bachelor party for him. He has called and called, made suggestions, tried to plan it himself, but they won't commit to anything. And just now I saw a conversation between his groomswoman and the mother of the jr. groomsman, and apparently the groomswoman is not even coming to the rehearsal dinner (mind you we told her months ago that the rehearsal dinner would be Friday night) because her husband doesn't get off work until 11. So they aren't planning on driving down from Wichita Falls until late that night. It really upsets me because FI loves his friends so much and all he wants to do is spend time with them, and I feel guilty because my friends are throwing me a huge bachelorette party and I've had two showers. I really want to send her a message and say "Look, he's not even having a bachelor party. Can't you at least spend some time with him the night before the wedding?"

BanannaP

Oh, and I should add that I know I'm being ridiculous and they're not required to be at anything but the wedding, but it still bothers me.

serlace

Anna - not ridiculous.

It upsets me just a little that my MOH will not be at my bachelorette party.  We are best friends.  And yes she lives out of town.  But, when we were first discussing my wedding and the 'events' surrounding it, she said she wanted to throw my Lubbock shower and come to Dallas shower to help out.  She also said she wanted to come to my bachelorette party.  Well, she is getting married this weekend.  So, she didn't come to my Dallas shower and now says she cannot come to my bachelorette party.  I completely understand why, really I do. But, I can't help that my feelings are a teeny bit hurt.  She's my best friend.  I really wanted to share all my events with her.

BanannaP

Thanks, Lacey

I just got the link for my b-pics and I'm so nervous to see them! I want to leave work right now so I can go look at them on my computer at home!