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Engagement Party

TylerRTylerR member
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My FI and I have been engaged since April. My FMIL wants to throw an engagement party with my Mom by the end of this summer. It seems like she wants it to be a big thing, but I feel a little uncomfortable about it. A lot of my family lives far away, or have a booked schedule.  A lot of his friends are on vacation, and I don't know that many of my friends would come. There is only a small window that my FMIL would be able to throw one. I guess the reason why I feel uncomfortable about it is that FI is 21, and I'm only 19. The wedding won't be for another few years, and I feel like I would get too many comments that we are too young to be engaged. FI is all on board for an engagement party, Is it necessary to have an engagement party? Would it be weird to wait longer for one? FI will be leaving for the navy in October, and I think that is why they want to get it all done beforehand.

I would love any advice!

Oh, and FI and I have been together for nearly 4 years. Just because we are young does not mean that we do not know what we are doing. =)

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Re: Engagement Party

  • hboo2011hboo2011
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    edited December 2011
    Becareful with having an engagement party. And since you have been engaged for 3 months already, yes it would be weird to put it off longer. They are done typically within first month or so even. If your wedding isn't for a few more years, at this point your guest list will change. I promise. And anyone invites to your engagement party needs to be invited to your wedding. Who's to say you will still have the same relationship w the person(s) at your e-party a few yrs from now. Why not say you do not need an engagement party (NOT required at all anyway) and have a going away dinner for your fiance? No wedding engagement party but still a dinner party w fam?
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  • TylerRTylerR member
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    edited December 2011
    That sounds like a great idea! We already had a small engagement dinner with both of our parents and his sister and husband, but we didn't even bring up the engagement or toast. I would love to have a larger dinner with some extended family. That way they can see him before he leaves as well. I agree about the guest list, and you guys make a good point; I may not invite all of the same people later on and that is just rude. Thanks for the advice!
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