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My friend's bachelorette - asked to bring $$

hendersonsarahhendersonsarah member
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Hi Ladies,

My girlfriend is getting married in December and her bachelorette is in a few weeks. I just got the email from her sister (and MOH) about details. They've organized a pre-paid dinner of $55 each and then we are going to a bar/club and have a private room and bottle service for $60 each...

I am on a budget as I am planning my own wedding and already have to get a hotel for her wedding as it's out of town, plus the other usual expenses that come with weddings (bridal gift and wedding gift)...

I was in shock that they expect us to bring cash and pay $115 when I don't even drink that much...is it rude if I only do 1 of the 2 events? I can't afford to dish out that much money when I'm really only going to have 2 drinks max!!! HELP
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Re: My friend's bachelorette - asked to bring $$

  • banana468banana468 member
    Knottie Warrior 25000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    edited December 2011

    Not rude.  it's rude to plan the event without consulting the guests.

    Just say what you can do.  It's not your fault that they didn't look into your budget.

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  • vk2204vk2204 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think it is dumb. Invite people to dinner, not make them pay $55, let them choose their own meals. Invite them to the bar and let them buy their own drinks.

    I was in a wedding a few years ago. The MOH planned it, without asking any of us, and booked a super expensive limo. $70 pp for the bridal party, and $20 for non party ladies. Well when people found out that they had to pay for the limo they opted not to go or drive themselves. The MOH then said "Okay you guys owe more now". I was taken aback. It was rude and I was pissed. But the bride was ready to pay for it and I didn't want that to happen so I gave more money. Never again though.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    Just let them know due to financial reasons you will only be attending _____. There is nothing wrong with that. 
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  • hendersonsarahhendersonsarah member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks!

    I'm emailing her sister/MOH today to let her know!! I appreciate the support :) I called my own 2 sisters last night (who are my MOHs) and told them that I want it to be a financial-friendly bachelorette if and when the time comes for them to throw me one!!! LOL
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