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Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

Is it ok to invite your wedding party without a guest to the rehearsal dinner?

Re: Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

  • edited December 2011
    I don't think you have to invite members of the wedding party with a guest if they are completely single.  However, if they are married or dating someone, you should definitely invite their SO.
  • edited December 2011
      If they have a SO, you should invite them. If they came from OOT and brought a date for the weddinn from OOT, you should invite them. If they are single and local, I don't think it would be necessary to let them bring a date.
  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited December 2011
    See, I think of a rehearsal dinner as a dinner for those who rehearsed, so the SO doesn't need to be included for this particular event.
    When I did theater and we went out after rehearsals, SOs weren't asked to tag along, ya know?
    But on the flip side, I think it would be awkward if the SO wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner.
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  • mgietler76mgietler76 member
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    edited December 2011

    Please invite the SO's I was in a friends wedding last year and my than BF (now FI) wasn't invited, no fun.

  • edited December 2011
    If the guests are travelling with them to the wedding, they should be invited. I mean, what are they going to do that night, just wait in the hotel room?
  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_rehearsal-dinner-etiquette-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:0a1b6c88-d91b-4e61-8c88-9a1cab2baaecPost:c70d1828-3ff6-4a67-875f-654f22a62639">Re: Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]See, I think of a rehearsal dinner as a dinner for those who rehearsed, so the SO doesn't need to be included for this particular event. When I did theater and we went out after rehearsals, SOs weren't asked to tag along, ya know? But on the flip side, I think it would be awkward if the SO wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner.
    Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

    But if you did theater, I'm guessing that everyone was local as were their s/o's. Then it's like going out after work with your co-workers.

    But let's suppose that you have WP coming from OOT for the wedding.    I agree with pp who asked what the s/o's are supposed to do for the night?  Sit in an empty room alone?
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_rehearsal-dinner-etiquette-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:0a1b6c88-d91b-4e61-8c88-9a1cab2baaecPost:68b0628f-f7aa-4fb0-b816-63b8b024827f">Re: Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette : But if you did theater, I'm guessing that everyone was local as were their s/o's. <strong>Then it's like going out after work with your co-workers. </strong>But let's suppose that you have WP coming from OOT for the wedding.    I agree with pp who asked what the s/o's are supposed to do for the night?  Sit in an empty room alone?
    Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
    That's how I see the dress rehearsal as, though... you rehearse, then go out afterwards.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    You're stretching to make the analogy because, as a I said, when you're in a theater production (and I've been in lots with several different local theater companies), you're local.  So your S/O is home, or out with his/her friends.  In the community and home in which they live.

    When I meet a friend for lunch or a get together after work, my DH doesn't come along.  But when our DD was married, and her MOH sister's boyfriend and she traveled 5 hours for the wedding/reception, it would have left MOH's bf sitting alone in our living room for the rehearsal.  Alone.  In a strange place.  For hours.  Poor form.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • pretzelgrrlpretzelgrrl member
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    edited December 2011
    My opinion is if you invited them with guest to wedding then invite the guest to the rehearsal dinner even if they are not OOT but especially if they are OOT
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    edited December 2011
    The dinner is a social event so yes, you need to invite them with their SOs or dates.
  • edited December 2011
    Who throws a party and then does not invite social units? gah!
  • edited December 2011
    I would definitely invite SO's. I've been the WP member and the SO before and in both cases, I am so glad FI was there with me, esp. since some WP members had their dates in the WP. So some people would have dates and others in relationships would not have. If they are truly single, I don't think you need to give them a plus one, but otherwise, invite them.


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