Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

lildeezie

Is it ok to invite your wedding party without a guest to the rehearsal dinner?

SaraAndrew2010

I don't think you have to invite members of the wedding party with a guest if they are completely single.  However, if they are married or dating someone, you should definitely invite their SO.

janicejab

  If they have a SO, you should invite them. If they came from OOT and brought a date for the weddinn from OOT, you should invite them. If they are single and local, I don't think it would be necessary to let them bring a date.

Simply Fated

See, I think of a rehearsal dinner as a dinner for those who rehearsed, so the SO doesn't need to be included for this particular event.
When I did theater and we went out after rehearsals, SOs weren't asked to tag along, ya know?
But on the flip side, I think it would be awkward if the SO wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner.

mgietler76

Please invite the SO's I was in a friends wedding last year and my than BF (now FI) wasn't invited, no fun.

sister2groom

If the guests are travelling with them to the wedding, they should be invited. I mean, what are they going to do that night, just wait in the hotel room?

trix1223

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[QUOTE]See, I think of a rehearsal dinner as a dinner for those who rehearsed, so the SO doesn't need to be included for this particular event. When I did theater and we went out after rehearsals, SOs weren't asked to tag along, ya know? But on the flip side, I think it would be awkward if the SO wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

But if you did theater, I'm guessing that everyone was local as were their s/o's. Then it's like going out after work with your co-workers.

But let's suppose that you have WP coming from OOT for the wedding.    I agree with pp who asked what the s/o's are supposed to do for the night?  Sit in an empty room alone?

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette : But if you did theater, I'm guessing that everyone was local as were their s/o's. <strong>Then it's like going out after work with your co-workers. </strong>But let's suppose that you have WP coming from OOT for the wedding.    I agree with pp who asked what the s/o's are supposed to do for the night?  Sit in an empty room alone?
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
That's how I see the dress rehearsal as, though... you rehearse, then go out afterwards.

trix1223

You're stretching to make the analogy because, as a I said, when you're in a theater production (and I've been in lots with several different local theater companies), you're local.  So your S/O is home, or out with his/her friends.  In the community and home in which they live.

When I meet a friend for lunch or a get together after work, my DH doesn't come along.  But when our DD was married, and her MOH sister's boyfriend and she traveled 5 hours for the wedding/reception, it would have left MOH's bf sitting alone in our living room for the rehearsal.  Alone.  In a strange place.  For hours.  Poor form.

pretzelgrrl

My opinion is if you invited them with guest to wedding then invite the guest to the rehearsal dinner even if they are not OOT but especially if they are OOT

banana468

The dinner is a social event so yes, you need to invite them with their SOs or dates.

MeaghanandMichael

Who throws a party and then does not invite social units? gah!

Summer2011Bride

I would definitely invite SO's. I've been the WP member and the SO before and in both cases, I am so glad FI was there with me, esp. since some WP members had their dates in the WP. So some people would have dates and others in relationships would not have. If they are truly single, I don't think you need to give them a plus one, but otherwise, invite them.