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Shower help!

audreylaine510audreylaine510 member
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I'm probably stressing over nothing here but wanted to get some opinions. When my FI and I first got engaged last November a friend of the family contacted my mother to let her know she would like to throw me a shower sometime in the Summer before my wedding (my wedding is in November, 2010). The same family friend also sent me an email stating her intention to throw me a shower and I was thrilled since my MOH lives in another state and it would be difficult for her to plan the shower.

The problem is that this family friend hasn't mentioned the shower since last November and now that Summer is upon us some of my out of town friends have started asking me when and where the shower will be so they can make travel arrangements. Should I gently remind this family friend about hosting the shower or is it too soon to press the issue? I have tried to bring up wedding plans around her to jog her memory but to no avail. Any advice on how to handle this tactfully and not come off like a bridezilla? I don't want to seem pushy but I am eager to finalize plans for the shower or at least be sure that the shower is actually going to happen.
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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    edited December 2011
    Can you have your mother ask her?  Not in a pushy way, just "hey, you had mentioned giving Audrey a shower a while ago, were you still thinking of doing that?"
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  • weddingbells2010weddingbells2010
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    edited December 2011
    Agreed with Quotequeen- let mom do it.  You don't seem "bridezilla-ish" at all.. there's a valid reason for wanting to know.  It doesn't seem like this can be the kind of shower where the bride is surprised, unless they're going to contact your out of town friends regarding travel arrangements without you, but either way- it's a perfectly reasonable question and the right time to ask.
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  • audreylaine510audreylaine510 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the advice! I talked to my mom today and she is going to ask for me so that I don't have to be the pushy one. :-)
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  • brookeb10brookeb10
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    edited December 2011
    Hey, I am having a similar problem. My maid of honor has no intention of planning a shower or a bachelorette party and our wedding is less than two months away now. Everyone is asking me when my shower is and I am telling them no one is planning on for me, it is very annoying when they get offended like  it is my fault. I do not know what to do or say and all of my other bridesmaids say it is not their responsibility so they are not planning anything. I am stressed about this, maybe for no reason?
    Please Help! Thanks!
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