SA Wednesday

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]Sarah - It is!!  OK mini vent time...I found out this weekend that FI's parents may not be coming to the rehearsal dinner.  They said it's because his mom is having knee replacement surgery (not that our rehearsal dinner deals with any standing), but this is the 3rd wedding related thing that she has been invited to and decided not to come (others being my shower and the bridal breakfast that my mom is hosting the day before the wedding).  I was pissed, because you would think that they would want to be there to support their son.  They haven't given a dime for this wedding (but whatever, I got over that), and they complained about not being included in things.  It's like, we try to include you and then you don't bother come.  It's a lose-lose situation.<strong> I really let it get to me, but Chris has told me not to, it's their loss. It sucks because I think deep down it hurts him (although he doesn't say so) and that makes me upset.  All I can do is be there for him, and he knows my family is there for him 100%.</strong>
Posted by llc2011[/QUOTE]
Wow!  We've had like the same experience almost down to a T. 

NathanandJordan

Happy Wednesday Ladies!

I would comment on all the SA's I just read, but I can't remember them all (just got out of a spanish test so my brain is fried ).  I miss the OMH's because they gave such great advice.  I understand that they have to move on at some point but they left big shoes to fill!  I try to be active in the threads and not be so much of a lurker but I am a quiet person so I usually don't have much to say.  I love being on here and interacting with you ladies though!

Today is a big to-do day for the wedding.  We are picking up my veil and wedding band, buying the rest of our centerpieces, ordering ceremony decor, signing our catering contract, and making hair and mua appointments.  Whew! Long day.... Can't believe I am almost in the double digits!!!

DFWIndian

Lauren, that does suck, but she's the one losing out in this whole situation. She'll realize what she really missed out in her son's wedding. I hope he is ok.

llc2011

Thanks girls! It was really good to just get that out!

Shortgirl - That's what I'm thinking.  We'll be able to enjoy ourselves and not have to worry about if they are feeling out of place (there were only 8 from his family that were invited and only 2 will be there.  We have a total of 52 people that will be there).  I need to just tell myself that we'll be surrounded by people that are happy and excited for us

ML & Julie - I'm sorry you guys had to (and have to) deal with family drama as well. 

DFWIndian

TK is acting up again isn't it?

marksle84

Amanda- You should have the DJ give score updates!

Marie- I went to the cosmetic outlet in Allen and bought my BMs a lipgloss, nail polish and eyeshadow for their bag. What girl doesn't need more beauty products! I also want to make little emergency kits for them with deoderant, hairspray, asprin, ect... since we are having a slumber party the night before.

FebDallasBride

So my darling FI has just informed me we will be getting a peacock when we get a house. And we are going to name it Col Mustard. I wish I was kidding

FebDallasBride

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[QUOTE]TK is acting up again isn't it?
Posted by DFWIndian[/QUOTE]

Very much so. My posts are all over the place

tmacwin

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[QUOTE]Oh, and Julie, in the spirit of not sending all the people who commented on my FB an email alert,<strong> My wedding is Baylor Homecoming AND OU vs A&M, which I may have already complained about because my whole family (and all my parents' friends) are die-hard Sooners and a big part of Andy's family are Aggies.</strong>  That might have been what you were thinking. It's also apparently the first day of hunting season (surprised my grandpa hasn't already announced he's not coming) and the first day of the Breeders Cup.  I certainly know how to pick 'em.
Posted by mrsamandamiller[/QUOTE]

For this reason (I'm an Aggie grad and Calvin is a Sooner grad), we were thinking of a fall wedding, but decided on Spring so it wouldn't interfere with football season.  =)

MarieSD

These ideas are sounding really good! I'd thought of the "emergency kit" but I don't know how excited they'd be to open their new purse and just find bobby pins and alka-selzer.

But maybe with a cute pair of earrings, some sparkly hair clips, and lip gloss ... it'll be much cuter.

I appreciate it, y'all. I can't think how many times I've heard "shop like it's their birthday" but the problem is ... I don't exchange gifts with these girls. I see them once every other year if I'm lucky. So I need generic ideas that'll still let them know I love them dearly, even if I can't think of a custom present for them to save my life!

Lauren - wow, I'm surprised they're not coming to the dinner. That is rough.

shortgirltx

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[QUOTE]Shortgirl - That's what I'm thinking.  We'll be able to enjoy ourselves and not have to worry about if they are feeling out of place (there were only 8 from his family that were invited and only 2 will be there.  We have a total of 52 people that will be there).  I need to just tell myself that we'll be surrounded by people that are happy and excited for us :) Posted by llc2011[/QUOTE]

It sucks in every way possible but I think it is so great that he has you to turn to for support since he is obviously not getting it from his family- your family seems accepting of him as well like they are gaining a son instead of losing a daughter (I don't know if this is true I just drew that HUGE conclusion from you blog).  I got told to stop analyzing what MIL did and to just accept it for what it is and move on.  This may very well be Chris' "normal" and he is just used to it after all these years which is why he is saying to not let it bother you.  And yes their loss.  We experienced the back and forth about wanting to be involved and it is frustrating.  I still kept MIL in the loop via email but she never responded to anything.

As you said, just focus on those that are there because they will be missing one heck of a rehearsal dinner.

marksle84

My FI is a Baylor Alumni as well as all his friends that are coming to the wedding. So the groom's cake is obviously Baylor'ed out!
I never had any college spirit for SFA, so I've gotten into Baylor team spirit.

llc2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : It sucks in every way possible but I think it is so great that he has you to turn to for support since he is obviously not getting it from his family- your family seems accepting of him as well like they are gaining a son instead of losing a daughter (I don't know if this is true I just drew that HUGE conclusion from you blog).  I got told to stop analyzing what MIL did and to just accept it for what it is and move on.  This may very well be Chris' "normal" and he is just used to it after all these years which is why he is saying to not let it bother you.  And yes their loss.  We experienced the back and forth about wanting to be involved and it is frustrating.  I still kept MIL in the loop via email but she never responded to anything. As you said, just focus on those that are there because they will be missing one heck of a rehearsal dinner.
Posted by shortgirltx[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>So true!  I mean who gives up free food? haha</div><div>
</div><div>Seriously though I think you're right... it's Chris' norm.  I feel like the parents were more focused on the 2 older children because they were the problem children that they didn't really focus on Chris.

</div>

DFWIndian

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : So true!  I mean who gives up free food? haha Seriously though I think you're right... it's Chris' norm.  I feel like the parents were more focused on the 2 older children because they were the problem children that they didn't really focus on Chris.
Posted by llc2011[/QUOTE]

This is how my parents are with me. When we went through our sponsor couple things it came out more and more that the stuff I was dealing with in regards to my parents isn't normal. I honestly didn't know any better and 27 years later I realize not everyone has the relationship I have with my folks. FI family is really open to me and his parents are amazing. Trust me Chris appreciates your family more then he could probably ever express.

llc2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : This is how my parents are with me. When we went through our sponsor couple things it came out more and more that the stuff I was dealing with in regards to my parents isn't normal. I honestly didn't know any better and 27 years later I realize not everyone has the relationship I have with my folks. FI family is really open to me and his parents are amazing. <strong>Trust me Chris appreciates your family more then he could probably ever express.</strong>
Posted by DFWIndian[/QUOTE]

<div>I definitely believe this!  I know it's not all about material things, but after the 1st Christmas that he celebrated with us (his family hasn't done anything for the past 14 years), he couldn't stop saying how much of a great time he had and that he appreciated being included.</div>

FebDallasBride

I am getting visitors guides from teh CVB for our OOT guests. I think outside of their dinner on that Friday, they will be with us or our immediate family, so i am not putting much into our OOT stuff

KendallandAlbert

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[QUOTE]So my darling FI has just informed me we will be getting a peacock when we get a house. And we are going to name it Col Mustard. I wish I was kidding
Posted by FebDallasBride[/QUOTE]

My comment about your life = <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" /> has been proved again.  :P  I love it!

MarieSD

Did any of you make a brochure / welcome pamphlet for your OOT guests? I'm daunted by the idea of creating one, but I know I need to give them some information (directions, parking instructions, timeline for the events) since they won't have access to our wedding website.

Do any of you clever, organized girls have that info in your bios that I can look at tonight?

llc2011

Marie - We did a welcome letter for the OOT boxes.  We did direction for the guests coming in from out of town and going to the rehearsal dinner.  I think my mom is going to get some brochures to add to the boxes with info from the mall (our hotels are in Frisco).  I can PM you our letter if it will help you.

ETA: I also got a timeline packet (found on weddingbee) that lays out the timing of everything for those in the wedding party & parents.

rfahey06

I'm rebekah.  Hi!  I lurk a lot, but never really have anythng to say or know what to say. 

MarieSD

Lauren -- I would love your letter, if you don't mind PMing it to me. I don't know why I'm at a loss for words ... I'm a writer/English major, for crying out loud. Yet this is what I've put off.

Hi Rebekah! How did you meet your FI? I see your wedding is close already -- where are you getting married?

FebDallasBride

Okay TK is seriously messed up and made me look psychic answering Marie's Q re: OOT bags.

Seriously, stop already.

Kendall, he has tried to convince me to let him have the following: a fox, a beehive with bees, the peacock, another dog (cause my two aren't enough) and a potbellied pig. I said maybe to the fox, and the next dog can come along when my older one is gone cause I don't want him to feel like he's being replaced.

MarieSD

Haha, when I saw that I thought you were psychic, knowing what I was going to ask before I even asked it!

manello

I have turned into a major lurker.  Since we changed our wedding to Vegas, I am afraid I don't offer much to our Dallas board anymore.  I do still read every day though!

Call me a major idiot, but what does OMH mean???  I have really tried to figure it out and I'm sure I'll have a major "duh" moment when you guys tell me!  LOL

MarieSD, for what it is worth, I think Charming Charlie is much better than Sam Moon.  I like the quality better and it is WAY better laid out.  Everything is in category by color.  So, if you know you are trying to match a blue dress, go to the blue area.  I just went last weekend and got my earrings, rinestone headband and really cute purse. 

llc2011, you mentioned Facebook...  I'm on the group there (I think) but don't have anyone as friends.  Would love to have you!!!  Look me up!

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]I have turned into a major lurker.  Since we changed our wedding to Vegas, I am afraid I don't offer much to our Dallas board anymore.  I do still read every day though! Call me a major idiot, but what does OMH mean???  I have really tried to figure it out and I'm sure I'll have a major "duh" moment when you guys tell me!  LOL MarieSD, for what it is worth, I think Charming Charlie is much better than Sam Moon.  I like the quality better and it is WAY better laid out.  Everything is in category by color.  So, if you know you are trying to match a blue dress, go to the blue area.  I just went last weekend and got my earrings, rinestone headband and really cute purse.  :) llc2011, you mentioned Facebook...  I'm on the group there (I think) but don't have anyone as friends.  Would love to have you!!!  Look me up! :)
Posted by manello[/QUOTE]

OMH - Old Married Hag

manello

OHHH>>>  LOL  That is too funny!!!

And, Lauren, I realized I put your screen name instead of addressing you directly.  Sorry!

One major check I did get done is our attire.  Since we are going to Vegas now it is MUCH less formal.  We went to Penney's Saturday not even knowing they were having a HUGE door buster sale!!  We got a suit, tie and shirt for FI for $174.  I got a cute little white sundress for 40 bucks!!!  SUCH a relief!  And, I already have our shoes.  Since we are getting married by the cheeziest Elvis we could find, I got FI some bright blue suede tennis shoes and myself some little short navy suede ankle boots.  So, both of us will be in Blue Suede Shoes for Elvis!