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Bachelorette Party Question

confusedbridesmaid11confusedbridesmaid11
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Hi. I am a bridesmaid in a wedding in October. I went to high-school with the bride and the other two bridesmaids.  I have kept in contact with the bride since then (14 years) but not the other two bridesmaids.  They are close and I am assuming they have been planning the party.  The bachelorette party is next Friday, and I got an evite to it today.  It's an hour away, bar hopping event. Sounds great, but I am 6 months pregnant. I have already talked to the bride, months ago when it was suppose to be a booze cruise, and she said she didn't expect me to go.  I am not going to attend, but I am wondering should I offer to pay towards the cost of the party?  At least for the bride's drinks and such. If I do offer to pay, who should I give the money to?  Also, the evite said to bring lingerie for the bride, should I send this??
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Re: Bachelorette Party Question

  • ejheartejheart member
    500 Comments Third Anniversary 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    Seeing as how you ARE a bridesmaid and do still feel pretty close to the bride, I think it would be a sweet gesture to send a gift. She'll know that you were thinking of her even though you weren't able to attend.

    As far as helping with party costs, I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask one of the other bridesmaids what you could do to help (IF you can afford it). My only worry would be that if you contacted the other girls directly, then your friend (the bride) may never even know that you pitched in. (Not that it's completely necessary but it's nice to give credit where credit is due and in my opinion all of that gets lost in these types of events). Maybe you could e-mail the bride saying that you'd like to pitch in if they need any help with costs and see if she can forward it on. I'm sure they are probably paying for most of it so you could send them a check if they say that it would be helpful.

    Otherwise, I don't think you're obligated to help by any means. It's totally your call and depends on your current budget. Another option might be to send some cash with the gift and tell her to buy a round or two of drinks on you. Just a thought.
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  • confusedbridesmaid11confusedbridesmaid11
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the response!  Great ideas. I am going to send a gift along with some money for drinks!
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