Hi all, I have a small problem that I want some advice on handling from my end.
The back story is that FI asked his brother to be his best man because he feels that he will always be happy to look back and have his brother standing next to him. They are not particularly close, but they do share the same closest friends. FBIL is getting married a few months after us and asked someone else to be his BM, but FI is the only other groomsman. No hurt feelings there, but helps to illuminate the situation.
My sister (my MOH) is throwing me a shower in my hometown followed by my bachelorette party. I am very excited and my friends have been really getting into it. As we get closer to the date in March, FI has been getting a little bit down because he won't be having a bachelor party. His party is spread out across the country, so he didn't really expect one, but his brother also bailed on their yearly ski trip because of wedding expenses. This is understandable, but leaves FI feeling a bit down because he would have loved a ski trip with his friends, at which they agreed to celebrate the dual bachelor-ness, which is no longer happening.
My question is what, if anything, should I do? Obviously I am not going to throw him a party, he isn't going to throw himself one, and there isn't much else to do I guess. I was thinking of asking a couple we're friends with here to go away with us for a short ski weekend before this happened, but never went through with it. Would that come across as a substitute? These friends are actually going to be our witnesses because they are important to us, but did not want to take on the attire expense since they are doing IVF right now. I want to be supportive as possible without letting him throw himself a pity party. After all, he's not ENTITLED to a party, but it must suck to see my sister so involved when his brother just isn't, even if it was expected, you know?