Okay I need help ladies, I need advice, I don't know what to do. Okay so I am getting married in September, and back in January my mom started planning a shower as did my future aunt in law/sister in law. My mom's was to be our side of the family and my fiances aunt and sister in law were going to throw one for their side of the family (each side of the family lives about an hour and a half from each other). Well somehow signals got crossed and my mom didn't know my fiances aunt was throwing one SO she is upset because she was really looking forward to hosting one big shower for both my fiance and I with both sides of the family there. I did not realize just how important this was to her, she literally called my dad crying (which I didn't know about until now) about how disappointed she was. She knowns now that if we have the shower my fiances aunt wants to have, not many people from his side of the family are going to come if any. I have joined my mom's side and really want just one big family shower. However my fiance and my fiances mom are insisting that if I turn down a shower from his Aunt I will be creating this huge divide in the family, no one will show to my moms, and even some people wont come to the wedding (I think he is being a bit dramatic there) but my heart is breaking because I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I agree with my mom and really only want one wedding, and he seems to think my mom is being manipulative and that I am wrong. Can you tell we just had a major blow up, to include him storming out. I am incredibly upset and I am just looking for some help/advice. Do you think I am right to agree with my mom, if it is something I want? The invites HAVE NOT gone out for the shower his aunt wants to throw, we have just barely begun discussing dates (and part of the issue is my mom can't get alot of time off from work and would not be able to attend the other shower). Sorry this is long winded, again very upset right now. HELP!
