Picking Rehearsal Dinner Place

jmconley08

My FILs have offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner as long as it isn't too expensive. Great. I initially suggested two places that are similar in price range but after thinking about it there is on place I like better. Am I allowed to pick the place or not? Also I know hwo usually goes to them, wedding party, immed. fam but if FILs want additional people from FIs family to go am I allowed to have additional people from mine?

RebeccaB88

If they are paying, then they get the final say over what they are willing to pay for. 

They can choose to give you a budget to work within and stay out of it  from there, or they can take all responsibility for paying and planning, and you and your guests just show up, and anything in between.  They can let you choose or not, it's up to them.

lkirby85

I would just talk to them about it.  My soon to be mother-in-law is hosting our rehearsal and so I sat down with her over lunch one day and asked her what she had in mind as far as number of guests, budget, location, etc... she opened up right away and basically said her son and I should pick a place and give her a guest list and she would take care of booking it and sending out invites.  

While it is really up to them, since they are the hosts, remember that they are hosting it in your honor and they should want you and your fiancé to be happy so they will probably be open to suggestions and requests.  As long as you are not demanding there is nothing wrong with asking about what their expectations are for the event.

Good luck!

CassieeK

Since they are paying, they do have the final say, but I would not hesitate to request a place.  Surely they want to host it at a place the bride and groom approve of!

MairePoppy

The hosts get to make the final decision on the location of the RD. But since your FMIL asked you for suggestions, it would be fine to tell her the good points of the place that you prefer. If she chooses the other, though, be a good sport.