New MOH needs some advice

jillsky2280

Hi everyone!  

I've been a long time lurking on these boards and now it's finally time for me to ask for some advice.  I'm the maid on honor in my best friend's wedding in July 2013.   She is located in Chicago and the wedding and almost all of the bridal party is in Massachusetts.  I know it's kinda early but I'm already thinking about her shower and bachelorette party.  I was thinking of doing a brunch for her shower and having the bachelorette party that night so she doesn't have to fly to MA for just that one event.  

If you were in a similar situation as a bride, would something along these lines be okay with you?

Thanks!

Jill

LDubHawksFan

I am in a similar situation.  Originally from IA, moved to CA.  I am going back for Labor Day and the girls are throwing me a shower during the day, then we are going out that night.  We are also throwing a baby shower that weekend for one of my BMs.  I think it's a great idea, but you might want to just check if she wants to have a shower and party back there (she may just want one, or none), and ask her when it would be convenient for her.  I wanted to go back home, but some brides may not be able to swing an expensive flight before the wedding.  I would suggest maybe pairing it with a trip when she would be home anyway (although Christmas is busy with lots of gifts already); we did this for my MOH's baby shower.

roselarae

I was a bridesmaid recently where the bridal shower and bachelorette party were on the same day, and most of the guests were local! It just made sense, since a lot of the people invited to the shower were also invited to the party. Also, easier to plan and decorate.

Summer2011Bride

I had my b-party the same night as a shower for that very reason (I wasn't as far away, but it still involved travel, and many guests traveled as well). It worked out great. The shower was over by about 2 and then we had some downtime to relax before the evening's festivities.

SB1512

I'm in a similar situation as the bride. My MOH is out of state and wants to do the shower and Bach party back to back. The issue we are having tho is that Sunday is going to be a more convenient day for shower guests so the Bach party will be Saturday night MOH won't get here until really late on Friday. I have suggested to the girls to either plan a Saturday day Bach at a vineyard or if they want to keep it a night event to scale it back so we aren't a mess on Sunday. One BM however keeps saying a day Bach isn't a real party and is pushing for an overnight at a casino, an hour from where the shower will be the next day. Im hoping the other girls persuade her otherwise because if not I don't think the night will be very fun......I'd be too worried about staying sober and calling it an early night so I can make sure I'm able to be well rested and not hungover for my shower guests the next day. I think back to back events can work if they planned well and the bride is on board with a potential busy weekend though.

jillsky2280

Thanks everyone for the advice.  I talked to the bride and she is on board with having the shower and the bachelorette party the same weekend.  Now I just need to figure out a date that works for her.  

Also, I believe 2 of her bridesmaid's are under the age of 21.  I believe one will be 16 at the time she gets married and the other is around 12 or 13.  I want to make sure they are included but have no idea what to do.  

Any suggestions?

Again thanks for the advice.  The bride and I have been friends for 14 years and I just want to make sure she has an awesome time.

jillsky2280

I know all I need to do is invite them.  The bride really likes to go out dancing so we are most likely going to be going somewhere that is 21 plus.  I was looking for suggestions as to what to do with the girls before we go out so they feel included ...maybe a trip to the spa?

Maria&Michael2010

I had 2 bridesmaids under the age of 18. My MOH took us to the beach, then to a fun dinner so that they were included. Then she took the age appropriate girls out on the town at night. It was great!! And the young girls had a good time as well.