Bachelorette Party - Must be invited to wedding, right?

dees14

My fh and I both have HUGE families and my wedding venue only fits 200 people. I can't even invite all the family I want to invite. Needless to say, I can't invite all the friends and aquaintances I always thought I'd have at my wedding. Does this mean I can't invite them to my bachelorette party? 

ShakeUpTampa

I personally wouldn't as normally the girls would chip in to cover brides cost and they may feel like they were good enough to go party with the bride but not go to the wedding. Can you do a non themed event like a girls night out? Just not wear any bachelorette things (tiara, sash, etc)

CassieeK

Anyone invited to pre-wedding parties needs to be invited to the wedding. Tampa's suggestion is good, but I would actually go out AFTER the wedding or WAY in advance. If I were invited to a girl's night a week or so before the wedding I knew I wasn't invited to, I would feel like it was a bachelorette party, and I'd be kind of annoyed.

dees14

Great advice, thanks ladies!

MaryCW2

I also agree with Tampa on this.  Having been on the other end of this I know it can be extrememly awkward.  The MOH invited be to a bride's bachelorette party even though I wasn't invited to the wedding (which had to be very small).  I think most of the other people there were invited so I felt like the odd duck out.  You don't want people in that position.

laurenkronenberg

You are right! Anyone invited to 'pre wedding' parties, are also to be invited to the wedding.  I like the idea that was mentioned above tho, if you absolutely cannot invite everyone you want to the venue, maybe have some sort of housewarming party, or just a party in general at your house and invite more people? Either way, good luck!