Bridal Shower before Wedding Invitations are sent out?

athlete010688

Is it bad etiquette to send out bridal shower invitations before I send out the wedding invitations?  If my sister waits to send out until I send out the wedding invitations, it's only about 1 1/2-2 weeks before the bridal shower.  DIdn't know the etiquette on this!  Thanks!

ShakeUpTampa

I guess it varies by social circle but in my social circle it's a bit presumptuous to send out a gift party invite before announcing the date of the wedding. Did you send save the dates to these people? My MOH aligned everything already so her invites for the party will go out about 1.5-2 weeks after the invites and the girls will have a couple weeks to rsvp.

MairePoppy

In my social circle, showers are held 1 to 3 months before the wedding. The shower invitations would be sent out about a month before the shower. Wedding invitations are usually sent out 8 to 10 weeks before the wedding. So it is typical for the shower invitations to go out before the wedding invitations.

If it makes more sense to send the shower invitations before the wedding invitations, then that's what she should do.

Have fun at your shower : )

samnathaw

My shower will occur before our invitations are sent out.  We did send save the dates however, so the women invited to the shower have already had indication of an invitation!

hschieferstein

I think most of the time shower invites go out prior to wedding invites. 

kmmssg

My DD had to fly home to attend her shower and it was 3 months before her wedding.  That is when she could get time off so that is when we did it.  Everyone received a wedding invitation and no one seemed bent out of shape about it.

MAMA41206

My shower is on Saturday and I'm not sending out my wedding invitations until next week (8 weeks before Wedding).

peanutty2

I think it's okay as long as everyone is invited to the wedding too and hopefully at least knows about the wedding.  Did you send STDs?

Typically, where I am anyway, the shower is 2-3 months before the wedding.  So it'd be too early for invites to go out.

I sent STDs.  So only those people definately invited to the wedding are invited to the shower.  My shower is about 2 weeks before I'll be sending out wedding invites.  Just worked out that way.

LoveMuffins

My shower happend about 2 weeks before my invites went out, so it would've been hard not to send the shower invites before the wedding ones! I definitely wasn't going to send my wedding invites out 4 months in advance!

I think the shower invites should be sent about 3 weeks - a month before the shower.

Hellokatie0517

Sending out STDs, helps curb any etiquette issues as far as people being invited to a shower prior to receiving a wedding invite.  Just make sure that whoever is throwing your shower knows to only invite people that are invited to the wedding!

athlete010688

Thanks everyone!  I didn't think it would be that big of a deal.  And yes, everyone that is invited to the shower, is invited to the wedding. 

MelanieReese13

II was just wondering the same thing! Since i am sending out my save-the-dates i think it is fine to send out bridal shower invitations before wedding invites. Thanks everyone!




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[QUOTE]My shower happend about 2 weeks before my invites went out, so it would've been hard not to send the shower invites before the wedding ones! I definitely wasn't going to send my wedding invites out 4 months in advance! I think the shower invites should be sent about 3 weeks - a month before the shower.
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pearnjeff

My niece gets married at the end of march '15. She had her shower last weekend.  Her save the dates went out last weekend.    I get married in 6 weeks.   What is the etiquette?  My sister says having a shower 6 months in advance before the save the dates are mailed is ok.  My shower was over labor day weekend because my sister didn't want my shower the same weekend as her daughters.. she said it was "her Daughters weekend". There are people who were sent save the dates who did not go to the shower.  Is this bad etiquette?   

Maggie0829

pearnjeff said:

My niece gets married at the end of march '15. She had her shower last weekend.  Her save the dates went out last weekend.    I get married in 6 weeks.   What is the etiquette?  My sister says having a shower 6 months in advance before the save the dates are mailed is ok.  My shower was over labor day weekend because my sister didn't want my shower the same weekend as her daughters.. she said it was "her Daughters weekend". There are people who were sent save the dates who did not go to the shower.  Is this bad etiquette?   

@pearnjeff - I think having a shower 6 months before your wedding and before STDs even go out is kind of crazy.  Now I had my shower before invites went out but only a month before invites went out (invites went out 8 weeks before wedding date).

As far as your shower and not including everyone who got a STD, that is fine.  Typically showers are for the nearest and dearest to the bride and not meant for the entire wedding guest list.

As for your sister and her wanting her daughter to have "her weekend," I think she needs to lay off the crazy MOB juice.

photokitty

I'm closing this Zombie. Thanks for answering @pearnjeff 's question @maggie0829.

@pearnjeff please refrain from bumping super old threads, if you have a question you can feel free to start a new discussion if your search does not answer your question.

Thanks!