Bridal Shower questions!

lorinschmisseur

Does it seem rude to send bridal shower invites to out of town guests? I don't want them to feel like they have to get me a present but I want them to feel included.

How can I tell them that they don't need to feel obligated to send a gift if they decide not to come?

One of my BM's says the bridal shower is supposed to be decorated in the wedding colors. I have never heard this, is this true?

waltzingmatilda13

Does it seem rude to send bridal shower invites to out of town guests? Not neccessarily. Invites were snet to some of my OOT family, whom I'm close with, because I did want them to know that I really wanted them there because they mean a lot to me. And you never really know who will make the trip.

How can I tell them that they don't need to feel obligated to send a gift if they decide not to come? You don't. If they want to send a gift they will, but they should know that gifts are not required if they aren't attending.

One of my BM's says the bridal shower is supposed to be decorated in the wedding colors. I have never heard this, is this true? I've never heard of this one before. I've never really heard of using certain colors at all or any kind color scheme to decorate.

Just checking, but you're not hosting your own shower right? I assume you're asking about invites because your host asked for your input on the guest list.

rknox88

It is not rude to invite people you are close with to your shower even if you don't think they will make it. My aunt and grandmother probably won't be able to come but I will send an invitation because they would be hurt otherwise.

However, if you just invite distant family members that you aren't close with it looks gift grabby.

If people want to send a gift they will and there is no way to stop that. If they don't want to or can't they won't. You needn't say anything.

The shower does not need to be decorated in the wedding colors. That is the preference of the host. My bridal shower will most likely be decorated in the same colors as my wedding (pink, peach, yellow, light green.) but that is just because it is a spring time event. The colors do not matter and your guests probably couldn't care less.

lorinschmisseur

I am not hosting my own shower, but my MOH asked for a guest list. I have some close friends that live far away and I didn't want them to be offended that they weren't invited. Also, my fiance's family is all out of town except mom. His mom wants me to send them all an invite.
As far as colors, my wedding is blue and there is no pink what so ever. I really like pink though and wanted that. One of my BM's said no it has to be the wedding colors, I think partly because they were planning on getting flower arrangements that were my wedding flowers. So I asked because I was curious. Thanks for the help!

asialee2

I gave my MOH a list of the ladies I am close to. My mom went on a rant that every lady invited to the wedding has to be invited to the shower, (yes, she even said to invite the family in Europe and people she added to the invite list,) which I think is total crap and looks like your just grabbing for gifts. 

As for colors I don't think that matters in the least! Let your MOH run with what ever idea or theme she wants and just sit back and relax!