Bachelorette PartIES??

megben88

I have six bridesmaids, four of them are my age (22ish) and the other two are 16. My "of-age" girls want to throw me a small party with alcohol and dancing, etc. But I don't want my sister (MOH) and future-sister-in-law (who are the two under age girls) to feel left out. Should I let them plan me a a separate party or maybe the shower together? That way they can have some responsibility and can be involved, but aren't going to get into trouble by hanging out with the "big girls" so to speak.

loop0406

I don't think they should be singled out, they just don't have to drink. They're 16 not 11 IMO. If the party is not at an over 18 or 21 location, they should be invited

trix1223

Compromise, compromise, compromise.  Find a way to have one party that includes everyone.  stage and loop have given you good suggestions.

ehathewa

I'd find a party that could include everyone.  A fondue place might be fun. 

MLizabc7

I say go out with your older girls for sure!!  If your sis and future sis-in-law are close enough to you to be in your wedding party, then they should be close enough to you to understand.  I was 15 when my sister got married years ago and we went out to dinner(which I went with them) and then they all went out and I went home.  I wasn't hurt in the least bit!  Remember it is your wedding time...do what makes you happy.

SuMmErKuTiE

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[QUOTE]I say go out with your older girls for sure!!  If your sis and future sis-in-law are close enough to you to be in your wedding party, then they should be close enough to you to understand.  I was 15 when my sister got married years ago and we went out to dinner(which I went with them) and then they all went out and I went home.  I wasn't hurt in the least bit!  Remember it is your wedding time...do what makes you happy.
Posted by MLizabc7[/QUOTE]


I agree with this.. the first time I was a BM I was only weeks away from my 21st birthday before the wedding and when the bride had her bachelorette I just went to dinner with everyone, but went home when they left to go bar hopping. I was fine with it and it didn't bother me at all.

If you want to go club or bar hopping or to any venue where you need to be of-age to enter and drink then make sure you have dinner or do a fun activity that can include everyone beforehand whether it is a spa day or just dinner with the girls before heading out on the town.

lilcassers

I agree with Liz. You shouldn't have to compromise your night because the 2 gals are underage. Maybe do dinner so everyone can go, and then go to the bar with your friends.

Slightly mention this to your BM when they start to plan. It's not something you should jsut randomly tell them right now.

megben88

UPDATE: My fiance and I decided to do the new "hip" thing and have a party together. We and our wedding parties are having dinner at Hard Rock Cafe in Memphis on St. Patty's Day. After dinner and hanging out, our under-age siblings will head home and we will continue to go to a few different bars in the area! Thanks for all the advice. For the record, I was never planning on "making" them throw me a party, they offered and wanted to know where to go for everyone or if we should do two. Plus, it is the responsibility of the bridesmaids to throw me a party of some sort, from everything I've been told.