Groom at the shower

emcook84

My MOH/sister is planning my shower. I am so excited and greatful for all the hard work she is putting into it. However, when going over dates and ideas, she mentioned my fiance beging there. I explained that the dates we were discussing maybe very difficult for him to make it. He is a farmer and he will be harvesting at that time. This does not mean he won't make it for sure (depending on the weather) but there is a possibility he wont' be able to make it. She seems completley upset by this. Is it totally wrong for the groom to not be at the shower? I know my aunts have all mentioned how funny it is to see the guys at showers now a days, so I know it will not bother a lot of my guests, but I do not want them to think he is being rude...he is just a hard worker which is so much of why I love him!

laurenkronenberg

Agree w/above. If he can go, awesome. If he has to work, so be it. I have been to showers where groom was there, some groom wasn't. I didn't think anything of it either way. I hope your sister is more understanding, as his attendance is appreciated, not necessarily required.

cpm1223

After attending a few bridal showers where the groom was there, I asked my fiance if he'd want to go to my/our shower and he gave me the worst look ever and say "NO WAY!!" He didn't want to even consider hanging out with a bunch of women, being the only guy there and having to open presents in front of everybody.

I have no issue with this at all...in fact I'd love to have the spotlight all to myself that day (kidding!!)

But no, he won't be there, and no its not going to be an issue, I find that most men would rather not be at the shower unless they are forced to!

I don't think people will think that he's rude for not being able to attend, since he will be working, not out golfing or donig something like that instead of going to the shower.

slave4dance

the only time i've seen the groom at a shower is when the gifts have to be put in the car LOL. I don't think its a big issue if he cannot make it, at least you already told them he may not be able to.

emcook84

Thank you! You all have confirmed how I felt about it. I was just very suprised by how upset she got that he probably won't be there, saying "people are giving him gifts so he should be there to open them!". Luckily, my sister and I fight and make up very easily and she would never say she wouldn't give the shower without him. I just got concerned that maybe I was wrong, and everyone was going to think he should be there. Thanks again!

Mycrimsonheart

I think it's okay if your husband HAS to work but it is appropriate/polite/etiquette for him to at least show up usually at the end to thank all the guests and hosts for coming and the gifts. I do find it awkward when the husband is there the whole time though.