Bachelorette Party

colemanml

I am at a standstill about my bachelorette party.  Don't I get to pick who I want to attend and who I don't want to attend? 

I am not trying to intentionally hurt feeling by not inviting particular people, I just want to be able to go out with my girls and have a good time with out any drama.  

How can I get my point across that it is my party and I can invite who I want to!?

MairePoppy

You dont' actually do the inviting because you are not the host.

Usually, the host asks the bride for a guest list, but may limit the number of people on the list. Only those invited to the wedding should be on that guest list. If there are people that you don't want invited, the host should respect that.

Is she trying to invite your mom or grandmother?

Ash61612

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_bachelorette-party-dilemas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:3a1bb87d-bd39-402d-9f65-8ad99c543e85Post:e21041ad-8d0f-4619-8ba1-5e3b6be6fcba">Re: Bachelorette Party</a>:
[QUOTE]You dont' actually do the inviting because you are not the host. <strong>Usually, the host asks the bride for a guest list, but may limit the number of people on the list. Only those invited to the wedding should be on that guest list. If there are people that you don't want invited, the host should respect that. Is she trying to invite your mom or grandmother?</strong>
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]
agree 100%

LoveMuffins

I mean... yeah you should have some say in it.
Ie.
My MOH said "Who do you want to invite?"
I asked, "How many people can I invite?"
She said: "Whoever you want."
Ok great, I invited about 30 people, all the people that I wanted there. But if she had said 10 people, I would've invited my 6 BMs and 4 of my closest friends.

If you're trying to force somenoe to let you invite more people than they can afford... that's not ok and makes you a pretty terrible friend. If you're trying to make the guest list smaller because you don't want to invite everyone that the host wants to invite... that's something you can put your foot down about, and if they don't agree then you can decline the party.

colemanml

Ok here is a little more info....my MOH is being awesome about the party, since she is the one who is planning it.  We basically wanted to invite our circle of friends and some of the wives of groomsmen.  However, the mothers (both mine and his) are insisting on attending (along with several of their friends and other family members I don't really want there).  My MOH wants to honor my requests and is only going to invite the girls I want, but the mothers won't drop the idea of them and their friends attending.  I really don't want them there.....

This whole wedding has been nothing but battles and I am about ready to say screw it and elope. 

PDXbridesmaids

I agree with RetreadBride.

mom's at a bachelorette party - does not sound fun!  Maybe have a special dinner/drinks night with them with the bridesmaids etc.  Maybe they just want to be included in all the fun girl time.

Good luck

Victoria