Rehearsal Dinner: Who Has Say?

smooth84

So my FMIL/FFIL are hosting the rehearsal dinner/welcome bbq. I really like the idea of a casual bbq to relax and welcome our out of town guests the day before the "big one", however I am not agreeing with some of my FMIL's ideas. Primarily the decorations and some of the food options concern me. I haven't said anything and I know if I did she would do it, but not without an attitude and comment. My question is, do I even get a say in this? Is it even that serious for me to speak up about?

trix1223

They're paying=their party.  If you don't like their ideas, turn down the money and pay for your own RD.  Otherwise, just graciously accept the generous gift you're being given.

smooth84

Oh no, I am being gracious and am so happy they offered to do it. I actually want to reduce the amount of food and change from paper wedding bell lanterns to the paper globe things. But now that I read my post it is silly. I'm just thinking about the little details no one will even look at but me. Thanks for bringing back to reality.

jinxed8605

Glad you came back to reality =D

Your FMIL will love being able to plan this since you are marrying her son. I know my FMIL is loving it since she doesn't have a daughter so this is as close as she gets to helping with a wedding.