Let me preface this with, this is simply to blow off some steam.
My FI's cousin is getting married a month before us. She became engaged 9 months before we did, and is getting married a year and 9 month after. So as not to take away from her big day, we set our date a month after her.
My FSIL's are my only bridesmaids, and have been stressing over when to hold a shower for me that wouldn't interfere with any of the cousin's wedding activities. Her shower had been announced in December as being in August. We settled on May for me. Not one week after my shower date had been settled the cousin decides that her shower will take place on the same day and has all of her invites sent to print immediatly.
I realize this is far from being clear and well written, I am simply expressing my frustration. I have tried to be considerate of her special day and all the planning that goes into it. All I as is for an ounce of the same consideration.