Ok, here's the deal. I am a Paramedic, and therefore work in a predominately male field. However, I have given three different baby showers to two different co-workers. One of which said to me shortly after I became engaged, that now it is her turn to give me one. Of course, I was completely thrilled, right? Well, at her first shower, I spent a ton of money, and only 3 people came. At her second one (which was just this past Saturday), only one person came after about 9 had RSVP'd. We had to beg those people to even RSVP. I felt really bad for her, which got me thinking, do I really want them to beg people to come to my bridal shower, and then only one person show up? I would be completely crushed! So how do I tactfully and tastefully refuse a shower?