Post Wedding Brunch to Replace Rehersal Dinner

jldurkin

Our wedding is on Friday evening and we will have mostly out of town guests. I have decided since most of the wedding party won't even be able to make it to the rehersal to have a post wedding brunch to replace the rehersal dinner. We will invite the same people we would have but do it after the wedding since most people will want to stay Friday night after the wedding. I am struggling with how to word the invitation to let people know this will replace the rehersal. Any help??!!

sister2groom

You don't need to say in the invite that it's a replacement. I would tell the wedding party and other peoplelike your parents and officiant that you won't have a rehearsal/rehearsal dinner (because having one's the default and you don't want them to worry about coming in town early.)However, presumably you are close enough to them to talk to them on a regular basis so you can just tell them they don't need to come on Thursday.

AdeleDazeem

Are you skipping the rehearsal all together?  If you are still having some kind of rehearsal (just without a lot of people), then it would be nice to at least provide some kind of food/meal for those who will be in attendance.  If you aren't having a rehearsal at all, then it's all good!

Also, as someone who has had to travel two extra days for a wedding due to the rehearsal (wedding on Saturday, rehearsal on Thursday because the couple couldn't figure out that they could rehearse elsewhere on Friday instead of their venue and not inconvience their guests by making them arrive on Thursday), I thank you heartily for understanding people's schedules.  A day after brunch instead of the rehearsal dinner sound fabulous!

hlq2011

The Rehearsal Dinner is to host those involved in the rehearsal.  If you're having a rehearsal, you need to do something for those people afterward.

However, if you're just not doing a rehearsal, you don't need an RD.  Just tell your WP and whoever else would be involved that you're not doing a rehearsal, and then issue invites to the post-wedding brunch.  No need to put it in the context of your RD; a rehearsal/RD isn't a requirement.

FayeValentine69

It won't "replace" the rehearsal dinner, so you don't need to mention that in the invites.  Just do the invites for the brunch and call it good.

And if you are still doing a rehearsal, you need to provide some sort of meal afterwards for those who DO attend, but it doesn't have to be a big deal.