My fiance and I are getting married in my hometown, which is about 2 hours from the city where I currently live. We both have large families (our wedding guest list with just our two families was close to 100 people) who live all over the state (and country). My aunt, who lives near me, has offered to host a bridal shower for me and wants a list of guests to invite. My mother's friends (who live in my hometown) have also brought up the possibility of hosting a shower, but this isn't a definite plan. His family, including my FMIL, hasn't said a boo. Who do I invite to the shower my aunt wants to host? My family (sister. aunts from both of my parents sides, grandmas, etc) who live between 20 minutes and several states (aka a plane ticket) away? My good friends who live close by? My FMIL and FSILs who would have to drive 4 hours to attend? His aunts (all 12 of them)? Help! I'm trying to keep the list I send to her to a reasonable number...