shower - bach help

starryeyed13

waltzingmatilda13

You don't need to say or do anything about either party. Bridal showers and b-parties are basically like gifts given to the bride, because you're right, they can be pricey. If someone wishes to host either event they will let you know and possibly ask for your input on a guest list. That's about all you need contribute. You definitely shouldn't host either party yourself because it looks gift grabby and selfish to host a party in your own honor.

quotequeen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_shower-bach?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:4c9633e3-705e-4477-8db3-591769539972Post:1fb16763-7e54-4fe5-be09-b34489632f28">Re: shower - bach help</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks - not trying to be gift grabby by any means.  In fact i am fine with not having either party.  I just don't want to put my family in an awkward spot with having to explain why they aren't throwing me one to my FI family
Posted by starryeyed13[/QUOTE]

You don't need to explain that they aren't throwing you one.  If your FI's family asks when these parties are taking place, just say that you wouldn't be involved in planning so you aren't sure, but as far as you know you aren't having one.

However, showers don't really have to expensive, so if your family does want to throw you one you don't necessarily have to turn them down.  They could host it in somebody's house with light refreshments for very little money.

waltzingmatilda13

Yeah, you don't need to explain, because it's no one's responsibility to do it. Lots of people actually have 2 showers, 1 for each side of the family, just to make things easier. My MIL offered to host 1 for me, but since all my friends and family were in the same town, it just didn't make sense.

marissa_claire

If someone wishes to throw a shower in your honor, all you need to do is show up and enjoy your company.  Don't worry about showers any further because it's not your place as the bride to concern yourself with the showers.