Rehearsal Dinner

getaclue44

So I have recently booked the restaurant for my rehearsal dinner.  My fiance's parents are paying for it and becuase they have recently been let go from their jobs, we have opted to go low key and very small.  We are only inviting people in wedding (with their spouses), readers, grandparents, and my brothers.  I have repeatedly made it clear to my family that we are keeping it small and explained why.  Here is my problem--for some reason, my brother decided to invite his girlfriend to the rehearsal dinner without me being aware of it.  I found out over the holidays when they mentioned how much they were looking forward to eating there.  My question is--how do I univite her--she was never on my list and only a ring on her finger would have gotten her there--she has been very disrespectful to my  mother and I really don't want her at the dinner--thoughts?  suggestions?

That Gal

If you are having other spouses/significant others at the RD, then it is rude to not have her there. I wouldn't want her coming either, but its probably the right thing to do.

Viczaesar

She's his girlfriend, she should be invited.

Simply Fated

She's one extra person who probably should have been invited in the first place.

KatePlusNate04

Significant others should be invited. You don't split up social units. If someone invited me to a dinner without my H, I probably wouldn't go, or at the very least, be extremely unhappy about it. You definitely need to include her.

getaclue44

Thanks for the advice..not sure my plan because technically not my call since it isn't my party. I get the whole SO and spouse thing, but don't like the fact that he assumed......and she really is just evil..I am going to hope that they break up before then...