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Long engagement - where does the party fit in?!

KatiandUlyssesKatiandUlysses
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My engagement is 21 months long! We got engaged on July 4, 2010. We are debating whether to have the engagement party this October (4 months after our engagement) or wait May 2011 (a year before our wedding). I've read that you should have the engagement party no longer than 4 months after the proposal. I've also read not to have the party more than a year before the wedding! We have great ideas for a fall party and a spring party and we wouldn't mind either or! We're so confused! HELP!
Kati
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Re: Long engagement - where does the party fit in?!

  • loop0406loop0406 member
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    edited December 2011
    According to the Knot advice:

    Setting the Engagement Party Date

    An engagement party usually takes place within a couple months of the proposal. That said, if you're planning to have a longer engagement, feel free to wait several months. Just make sure that your engagement party takes place closer to the time of your engagement than it does to your wedding date
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    edited December 2011
    And you shouldn't host your own engagement party.  An engagement party is thrown for you but not by you.
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  • KatiandUlyssesKatiandUlysses
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    edited December 2011
    My parents are hosting it. We just can't decide when we actually want to have it!

    Thanks for the advice!!!
    Kati
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    edited December 2011
    The engagement party is held in month 2 or 3 or 4 after the engagement. 
    (No matter how long or short the engagement period will be.)

    http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/engaged/articles/engagement-party-planning-101.aspx
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  • Adrini76Adrini76 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going to be the odd man out here. 

    Many in my friend circle are getting married and as we all seem to be graduating at different times we are all having long engagements.  Though we are all ending up with dates right on top of each other, cause chaos is just that fun. :)

    We are all (as in all of us) having the e-party one year before as a kick off to actually doing wedding planning and no longer just talking about doing wedding planning. You are expected to bring a gift, but a gag gift ("10 ways to survive marriage" that sort of thing) and a bottle o' wine. The couple is throwing it, though often as in renting a room at denny's and ordering a large amount of hamburgers and chicken strips. BROB. Not exactly fancy. 

    It's not elegant, it's not "traditional". But it's fun, we've had a blast at every one so far and I'm looking forward to those in the future. Plus it's fair warning for "I will be more wedding obsessed then ever and will expect help in this, the obsession and the wedding itself."

    I've never seen them as rude at all - it would be far more rude to not care or fade away when people I cared about needed help. After all I expect them to help me. 
    Wedding planning land is not friendly to feminists.
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  • KatiandUlyssesKatiandUlysses
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    edited December 2011

    Adrini76 - Now that's the kind of engagement party i'd want to go to!! I love that  and it seems like a fantastic idea. I'm actually thinking about party crashing...... :)

    Kati
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  • Adrini76Adrini76 member
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    edited December 2011
    We love fun people, so long as you're willing to laugh it up you'd be welcome. Just don't forget the beer.:)
    Wedding planning land is not friendly to feminists.
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