Bachelorette Party Drama

rissy2012

I don't know what I should do.

My sister is my MOH, and when she started planning my BP, I told her what I wanted: a chill, sophisticated, relaxing night in a jazz club. She got really upset and accused me of not trusting her to plan a fun night. I told her that I do trust her, but I wanted to be clear what I wanted. My relationship with my sister has been really strained lately, and we haven't been able to communicate properly.

Now, with two days until my BP, everything is being kept a secret, but from what one of my BMs has let slip, it doesn't sound anything at all like what I wanted. It sounds like she's planning this crazy night out where I will be subjected to public embarrassment. Honestly, I don't trust my sister when it comes to alcohol, as she has lost control of herself recently under the influence. 

I want to speak up and tell them it's not what I want, but it's kinda late now. I know they have put a lot of effort into this and I don't want to be a brat because it's not what I wanted. But I am really worried that I won't have a good time and I'll be stuck babysitting my drunk sister again. 

Should I speak up or just go with the flow?

banana468

Well, how much public embarassment has to be pre-planned?

Could you go along with the plans but insist that any embarassing things will cause you to take a taxi home?

lnl1025

Could it be perhaps the one who let something slip was just messing with you? Just because embarassing things may be involved doesnt mean they have to involve you. My moh asked me to look over this little lanyard thing of bachelorette party things you have to do... get a guys number, tell a guy your sexual fantasy, a buncha (imo) stupid crap that 1. i wouldnt want to do and 2. i feel would upset and disrespect my fiance. I said no i wouldnt be ok with most of the things on this list, and she suggested well other members of the party could do them instead of me . That , I was fine with. But if it were me, I would try to relax and think more about spending time with my best friends and less about what they may do to embarass me, or who I may end up babysitting. You could always talk to one of the other girls and say hey, would you mind keeping an eye on her and making sure she stays out of trouble so that I can enjoy the night and not worry. I know what you're going thru tho, we have similar situations with our best man. But dont even let me get started on him

rissy2012

Thanks for all the advice! The BP was a lot of fun, and involved minimum embarrassment. There was some minor drama with my sister, but I'm trying to be thankful for the time I spent with my friends and the fun I had than focussing on the negatives. 

If you or anyone you know is planning a BP, I highly recommend a karaoke cab. It was a lot of fun and ensured that everyone was safe.