shower invites

kimberlykh

So, my wedding is awhile off, but I come from a family of planners, so my sisters have already started planning my shower.  Because we all live out-of-town, they've opted to throw it a week before Christmas in our hometown when we'll all be there.  Because of the timing, I'm sure that a lot of my out-of-town friends and family won't be able to come and I'm actually completely fine with that.  Showers intimidate me, so the smaller the better!  But, here is my question: do I invite people who I know absolutely will not be able to come?  I don't want anyone to feel excluded, but also don't want to appear hungry for gifts.  Thanks for your help!

heyimbren

You technically shouldn't be inviting anyone yourself since it's your shower. Do you know how many people your sisters can afford to host? Assuming they ask for your input on guests, then just pick those closest to you that you would like to have at the shower.

If some of those people can't make it, then that's fine. But don't assume they can't come before they're even invited.

That being said, when I hosted a shower for my friend, I ended up inviting two girls that I knew wouldn't be in the province (one wouldn't even be in the country) because they're very close friends of the bride (and one was even a bridesmaid) and knew they would appreciate being invited.

I think part of it also depends on your motivation for inviting these people you say won't come.

Matty143

You should include everyone that you want to on the guest list that you send to the host of your shower.
Even if you "know: they cant come.
If you send a save the date, and they tell you they cant make it to the wedding, you still send the formal invite..