Batchelorette party ideas

acbell4415

I want to have a low key batchelorette weekend. One of my maids is under 18 and one is under 21 so I wanted some ideas of things we could do that are age appropriate and fun (i am so over going out and i dont want people buying me sex toys i will never use)

I was thinking of one night having dinner and low key party where everyone could participate... but i dont want it to be a bore

AdeleDazeem

My sister's bachelorette party was a trip to a spa and a nice dinner out.  I've been to others were we went to dinner and then came home to watch movies, drink wine and hang out.  If anyone thinks that is lame... well.... to each their own, but not everyone wants the party bus/penis wearing/sex toyed up male stripper.  I certainly don't!

trix1223

Why does it have to be a weekend?  Just curious about that part.

Not all b-parties have to be filled with raunchy and alcohol.  See the post on the moms and maids board that it titled something like "lame b-party".  It sounds great!

Anyhoodle:  some other ideas in addition to the dinner that you mentioned:

sporting event
concert
amusement park
bowlling
cooking class
spa day
slumber party, complete with popcorn, ice cream sundaes and chick flicks

My DD went to Medieval Times and then Dave and Buster's
My DIL had a make your own designer handbag at a shop that makes handbags and then opens for private parties.  They followed that with a nice luncheon

AuntieMA

I just attended a "low key" stagette.  The bride also just wasn't the type to go out to the club etc.  She just wanted a nice evening with friends - and it's her day after all!!

So we surprised her by taking her paddle boarding.  Picture standing on a surfboard and paddling around a nice smooth lake - it was so peaceful and relaxing and quick to learn.  Everyone had a great time!

Then we just went back to the bride's house, made dinner and had some drinks and talked all night -  we all stayed overnight (no drinking and driving).

It was one of the best stagette's I've ever been to!

Xan921

My MOH, who is also my sister, is only 19, so instead of doing the whole bar thing, we're just going out to a fun dinner and drinks (for those of us who can drink) and then heading back home for a girls night.  Everyone seems to be looking forward to it.

brit_bell90

I think my MOH is planning on taking a shopping trip and then back to my house for some drinks and video games, very low key, but I think we'll have a lot of fun.  

literatureartist

We went midnight-bowling, (rock-a-bowl, etc) after a potluck dinner gathering.

hanson2B

I co-hosted a bachelorette party where we went out to dinner at a fun Japanese restaurant where they prepare the food right in front of you... 

then we all went to the mall for a "scavenger hunt" based on the bride's life.  For example, she took ballet as a child, so we all did an impromptu "ballet dance" in the middle of the mall.  Then we recreated the moment she met her future husband by making a sign that said "hello my name is Randall" and finding some random guy to hold the sign and pose for a picture with her.  Then we had a contest to find the most gaudy, ugly ring for her "engagement" ring... etc.  It was crazy but fun.

After that, we went to her new home for snacks and drinks (but you could make some fun mocktails) and we played Rock Band.

rcrivard

We are doing a girls' night fondue party, with cheese and chocolate fondue and other munchies, wine, some fun games and just having fun hanging out. I am also over getting smashed and going to bars, and I'm just not into the skanky stuff, so this is good enough for me!

KasiH2B

I am not the kind of girl that likes to go out and party or drink either, so my girls are throwing me a party at a pottery painting place and a lingerie shower. I love painting and doing crafty things, so this is perfect for me!

I've known brides to just have a lingerie shower at a friend's house and hang out there. There are cute games to play (how extreme they get depends on the bride) and have snacky foods.

Just do what's fun for you and fits your personality whether it's hitting the town and going crazy or something more low key.

louloudi87

I have no idea what's going to happen at my b--party.  I've seen the invite and all I know is MOH wants everyone to make a cd.  My boss started to ask me about it and I told her I didnt want to know.  Its going to be an interesting party, though.  She knows I dont want a stripper or bar hopping.

monandben

i LOVE the idea of that scavenger hunt!! that's so creative!!!
I"m hoping for my bach. party to do a spa day and nice dinner!!!

[Deleted User]

Oh my gosh, I am such a control freak.  The idea of "surprise bachelorette party" just scared the pants off me!

But now that I think about it, I bet my primary gals would do a good job of it.  I think they know what I'm into, because they're into it too.  I think it would be fun to all go to a nice dinner, or to get horrible takeout, or maybe even just go out for dessert, and then come home and have a wedding movies marathon (but for me that means things like "Wedding Crashers" and "27 Dresses", heavier on the comedy and less on the romantic!). 

I also plan on having my ladies assist me in making those glass stone/flat marbles magnets with little pictures inside them (I'm using a craft hole punch to cut little circles out of wedding magazines) of brides and grooms, flowers, rings, etc.  These are going to be my favors - I'm planning a set of 4-6 for each adult guest for a guest list of about 80.  That's a lot of magnets!  Maybe if we have the bachelorette a week or two before the wedding we can also work on these during the movie marathon!

Here's where I found the magnets idea (stolen from someone else on theKnot.com!): http://www.notmartha.org/tomake/marblemagnets/

nickihall84

These all sound like great ideas! My MOH is planning a weekend trip to a regional vacation spot where we'll do an adventure course (zip lines), water park, shopping, and a casino. I'm definintely not into the bar hopping, stripper scene, so this will be perfect!

froggielynn

for my sister inlaw's we went and all got pedi's and then had dinner.... then with my cousin (she was 19 when she got married, i was her MOH and the only one over 21 in the whole bridal party. our other cousin was also a brides maid (she was 15) we made arangements with a country dance club to get the 15 year old in. We started at the brides apartment playing games, then went on a slightly naughty scavenger hunt.(only naught if your thought dirty) then to the club, we ended the night at my aunt's in the hot tub with virgin margaritas

Biotechick620

I don't think just because you have a low-key bach party that it will be a bore.  As long as you and your guests are enjoying themselves and having fun it sounds like a success to me!!

I agree with others.  I'm over the whole stereotypical bach party as well.  I keep telling my MOH and BMs all I want for my bach party is to have my feet rubbed and eat chocolate ;o)

Do what makes you happy!!

askheidi

I'm considering two different bachelorette party ideas. One is a spa day -- most brides are already going to go to the spa to get a massage/facial/mani-pedi before the big day so why not go with all my girls? My maid of honor and I would spring for mani-pedis for all the girls and then we'd try to find a group rate for any other services we wanted done.

The other bachelorette party idea is a pole dancing class. It's not as trashy as it sounds! There's a "pole fitness" gym near me that does weekly fitness class that involves pole dancing (no stripping, just learning spins). I think it would be really fun and silly to do this with my favorite girls, while still keeping in the spirit of the slight debauchery that a bachelorette party implies.

Good luck finding something fun and low-key!

[Deleted User]

My MOH, who is my lil sis, will be under 18, and I'm not a big drinker, and a couple of my bridesmaids don't drink at all.  We're planning on spending a weekend in a cabin in the winter.  There will be some low-key drinking for those of us that would like to drink, and we'll also have board games and cards.  The place we're staying also has some caves to explore, and zip lining, and horsebacking riding.  So we're just going to have a girls weekend and enjoy nature and forget about the rest of the world and the stress of planning for a little bit.  The cabin has a hot tub and pond by it as well. 

myremedy1976

My B-Party is this weekend...My girls and a bunch of my friends are all getting together Sat night. We are all going to my MOH house. We are ordering in pasta, and having a girls IN night. Nothing set in stone for plans but we have tossed around the idea of having a fire if it is nice, playing pool, watching movies, playing rock band ( would be fun after a few drinks). We are going to play it by ear and see what everyone wants to do. For us it is just another reason for the girls to get together have a few drinks.

cherritz

My bachelorette party is coming up next weekend and my BM has shared with me the plans and I'm totally excited. We are starting off by going to a camp ground that is about an hour away that has a beach and a shelter house. We are going to lie out, listen to some good music, float a bit, maybe play some yard games, have some drinks and she is bringing a picnic lunch. We will leave there late afternoon to go home and freshen up then all meet up again at a Japanese steakhouse where they cook the food in front of you. We are going to go hit some bars after that... an Irish pub, a martini bar and a few others, but nothing crazy. We are dressing in 'summer dressy' attire and going to have a great night. I just can't wait!

mmilinazzo

I LOVE the idea of doing a mani-pedi party... esp if you can swing it close enough to the Wedding that they can be the day-of polish. 

Another thing I've seen is groups going to design purses... I'm not sure which area you are in but I know around me there are a few places you can go and pick which style you want, and then pick all the colors/designs. It also works if you don't have gifts for the girls yet... so maybe you could treat in that case?

dackius

When I was in my friend's wedding, we did a "Big Girl Slumber Party."  It was in the middle of the afternoon at one of the Bridesmaid's houses and everyone came in ridiculous pjs.  We kinda had a pot luck and then made homemade pizzas and had tons o' junk food.  Then we busted out romantic comedies and kareoke and nail polish.  It was a blast, especially since a few girls in the wedding party were underage. 

I like the scavanger hunt idea!  I know that there are museums, like the Field Museum here in Chicago, that put together scavanger hunts too.  I also know it's kind of pricey...the one at the mall sounds really fun!

RamaOtster

I was starting to wonder if I was the only one who thought this way! TELL THEM WHAT YOU WANT and if they won't do it just plan it yourself and invite them!

Here is my story which may make you force the issue:

My sister, whom I love dearly, is my MOH and she is planning the party. I am pretty low key. Her best suggestion was camping for a weekend but FI and I are in the middle of putting an addition on our house AND planning the wedding so I just couldn't commit to being away for a whole weekend. I suggested that we go for dinner and thave a campfire or do a movie night and she got SO upset and cried and then I felt bad and just moved on to other topics.

About a week ago I asked her to give me a hint of what she decided to do and she called me to let me know that she had booked a hotel in Toronto (3 hours from my home) and was thinking of having a Drag-Queen show. I told her that Toronto was a little out of the way, considering that she doesn't have a licence and I would have to drive, and almost everyone who is invited is at least 1 hour and most 2 - 3 hours from Toronto. I also asked her not to do the drag-queen thing as it is just not something I would want to do. She threw a fit about how she already booked the hotel room and that it was just too bad and I don't get any say in the party I am just supposed to show up. SO not only am I going to end up doing something that makes me uncomfortable but I will also end up being away for a whole weekend (a long weekend no less) when I should really be helping with the addition.

We'll see what ends up happening, but at this point there are girls planning a separate bachleorette near my home as they can't go to Toronto and still want to do something.

I wish I 'd forced the issue but she cries all the time and then I feel bad.

Really hope she's not on the Knot lol

cnwork2

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_batchelorette-party-ideas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:5e656d94-0a19-43e4-9f25-43fec990dcb6Post:e6c4406c-e45a-4ecb-85fd-81cfddc49813">Re: Batchelorette party ideas</a>:
[QUOTE] slumber party, complete with popcorn, ice cream sundaes and chick flicks
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I am doing for my bachelorette party :)  We're also doing a cookout and maybe a bonfire.

ricknmere4ever

For a friend of mine we went to a Ballet (which was actually a recital for a local school but still fun) and then went to dinner at a nice restaurant and had a t-shirt that said "advice for the bachellorette" which we took around the room and had different people sign. This way those who are over 21 could drink some if they wanted, and those under could still join and have fun as well. It was really a very fun tim!

bethys22

We're doing a cooking class/party at one of the girls houses. Iron Chef style.

Becky1shot

My friends are throwing me a Bachelorette cruise on the lake. We will be spending all day on a couple of boats wakeboarding, jetskiing (hopefully in a veil) and having a good time. The day will end at a restuarant near the marina! They know me well enough to know I would prefer something fun like that over going downtown to bar hop. Tchin tchin!

all5879

I went somewhere in the middle... its actually this weekend. We are staying at afriends beach house. We will lay out during the day... Early evening, we are going on a boat, ordering pizzas, and bringing wine (we have a sober boat driver) and the next night we going to go to couple bars near the house,we are all old now and never go out... so its a little fun for us to pretend we handle a little bar hopping! :-) NO PENIS GEAR or STRIPPERS, but I agreed to wear white and they are all wearing black. Then they have a little sash for me to wear. Its nothing over the top, keeps everyone within their comfort levels.... and I agree that anyone who thinks what you do is lame, is lame them selves!!

cmessersmith

I wanted to do something besides go out to the bars for my bach party, because I felt like that was something I can any time, so one of my BMs came up with the idea of renting a "party pontoon" boat on the lake. It has a slide, a bathroom, and 2 decks. The idea ended up falling through, so we're going on a rafting trip instead, but it would've been a blast!

RavenBeautie

Paint ball ;o) Eveyone has fun, and no alcohol involved.

TSB2010

Have you ever considered having a bachelor/bachelorette party together?  Although non-traditional, many couples are opting for this nowadays.  

My FI and I want to celebrate for sure but dont want the traditional stripper/sex toys/get drunk and sloppy routine, so we decided to have a party with all of our friends and family together.  Since his family is from out of the country (and all ages), we will co-host a party at our house with the MOH, BM and wedding party; complete with all sorts of appetizers, drinks and games for the kids.  Then, with the help of five designated drivers, we all (whoever is still up for it) will head over to midnight rock out bowling for a few more rounds of fun