Engagement Party - oh, the woes of apartment life

emeejeeayen

So, as back story, my whole family is in CA and my fiance's are in NYC (and 99% of our friends are in NYC). We had an engagement party with my family back in California already when he was out here, but no one from the east coast side of things was able to attend. (Honestly, I'm sad things have to be so separate for cost reasons.)

I know that you're not supposed to host your engagement party, but we're trying to keep costs down, and the only cheap space, given how TINY apartments in NYC are, is to have it in my fiance's building's lounge. It has a TV, outdoor space, pool table, etc, and the building lets you rent it out for a couple hours with just a $200 deposit that you get back if nothing gets damaged. It's on an entirely different floor so it's not connected to his apartment at all except that it's in the same building.

I think it could be fun, but is it too weird? Would it look like we're hosting it even if it were his family and our friends who planned it? (We're a super casual group so I think it would be a FB invite for our friends and probably his mom would call the elderly relatives, so no paper invites with "so and so invites you to such and such.")

EK2013

Just don't send out the Facebook invitations yourself and you'll be gold. For your guests' sake, make sure it's clear who is throwing the bash. If anyone asks you about it, you can say "Oh, such-and-so chose this space because it's so conveniently located!"

RebeccaB88

Yeah, since you can't throw your own engagement party, the problem of where to hold it belongs to those hosting it, not you (the guests of honor).  Let your hosts figure that out according to their budget and location.