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Pre-wedding Parties

Bachelorette Party Issue

So I live in northern Nevada and my three bridesmaids are all in California (1 in Northern California and the other 2 in Southern California). The one in Nor Cal, we'll call her Lu, has really taken the reins and wants everything to be perfect. The problem is, the 2 in Southern California (we'll call them Mina and Ray) do not like Lu. Ray just lost her job and cannot afford to travel for the BP to come to Northern Cal or Nevada, which I completely understand. Lu basically told me by text (she has laryngitis right now so I can't really talk to her by phone) that I either have to go to Southern Cal for my BP, or I can do it wherever I want but Ray will not be able to make it. Then asked should we not have one, or what would I like to do.

I don't know what to do at this point. She is trying to organize this since I will be traveling for thesis work for a month this summer and possibly without phone service. Once I get back, the wedding will be in 2 months.

Should I not have a BP? My fiance suggested that the girls come here a few days before the wedding and we do it then, but I am hesitant because my parents (from Texas) will be in town and I do not get to see them often. At this point it sounds like it will be more trouble than it is worth. What do you girls think? Have any of you been in a similar situation?

Re: Bachelorette Party Issue

  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Why can't you just go to Southern Cal after you get back from your trip but before the wedding?

    If that doesn't work out, then either have the party without one of the bridesmaids or just skip it altogether.

    I'm in a friend's wedding right now, where we had to plan the shower during a time when one of the bridesmaids can't make it. It happens, it isn't a big deal. She'll be there for the wedding, and hopefully the bachelorette. When people are spread out, travel plans and timelines do get complicated and not everyone will be able to make it to everything. And that's okay.

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