Hi! I'm a recently engaged student, and a few of my fiance's fraternity brothers have said they would like to host an engagement party. It's really sweet of them to do so, and they've asked my fiance and I to make a list of people we want them to invite. I'm concerned, though, because I know that if I invite someone to an engagement party, it's rude not to invite them to the wedding. The problem is that my wedding will be at home, not at school, with mostly family and family friends and only our closest friends from school. I would be fine with having a small engagement party, but I know that a lot of my sorority sisters and other friends here would expect to be invited to an event hosted by FI's fraternity...and of course, all of his fraternity brothers would expect to be invited seeing as it will be held at their fraternity house or at another house where many of them live (though I don't think all of them would expect to come to the wedding). I can't invite all of these people to the wedding but don't want to hurt them by not inviting them to a casual engagement party...many of them are girls who hang out at his fraternity house and who are always invited to events there. I'm friends with them, just not particularly close. Like I said, I think they would expect an invitation to something like this but not to the wedding. I don't want to be rude though...What do you all think? Sorry so long, and thanks for any tips!