Destination wedding + shower- help with etiquette

ErinC1014

hi all.. A little background, and sorry for any crazy typos- on a touchscreen. One of my best friends is getting married on an island in llate May. I cannot be in the wedding because I am pregnant, and am due right around her wedding. I wanted to do something for her though, so I thought of throwing her a small bridal shower...I say small, because I'm not sure of the etiquette- does destination wedding usually = no shower?

I ran the thought by her fiancé and mother, and they both think it's a good idea. Mom said it would be nice to invite family who couldn't make it to the wedding.

I already know I should only invite people who were invited to the wedding. Any other glaring etiquette no-nos to avoid?
Having it at mom's house- ok? (she offered)
Do I include registry info in the invite? I'm not even sure whether people should feel obligated to bring a gift, since some are paying to travel to the wedding.

Complete novice here...would appreciate any advice. Thanks!

sister2groom

You're right, don't include anyone not invited to the wedding. Also, you don't HAVE to invite everyone to the shower, in fact I wouldn't if they're out of town , unless they're in the wedding party, siblings or grandmothers.

Including registry info on a shower invite is usually considered OK because the POINT of the shower is to bring a gift (not that you can't attend without one, but I personally wouldn't want tocome without even a small one).

Having it at her mom's house should be fine.

Don't have it during a mealtime if you don't want to serve a meal.