Ok, so I am in a wedding in sept. as the MOH. I have already started the planning on the bridal shower to get a head start since it will be held in JUly..busy summer time.
Now there are 7 bridesmaids and the first email went out to discuss ideas since we are all in different locations. Well, let me just say..I am overwhlemed already.
This is my first time as a bridesmaid..let alone a MOH but I have gained all my knowledge from the Knot and in the process of planning my own wedding so I have some ideas of what I am supposed to be doing. However, there are a few bridesmaids that have been through the bridesmaid dance before and are reverting to the "well, in so and so's wedding we did this.." and there is a lot of disagreement with my ideas and decisions even though I know the bride would love them. One of them is her future SIL who is being very controlling and disagreeing.
She has now gone to her mom..the MOG and enlisted her to have the groom contact me about what she thinks is wrong with what I'm doing and how I'm handling things. (One being the bride won't be suprised and she doesn't like that...which was the bride's request)
Side note: I had already reached out to the MOG to verify dates, guest list and would let her know what she could help with.
So I guess my question is, since it's my first time...is this normal? How do I handle this? I thought I was taking the right approach with contacting her first and letting her know she would be involved as soon as we figured things out. Now, she has gotten herself involed with the way I am taking care of things especially because she is hearing things from her daughter. Therefore, not putting any faith in me that I know what I'm doing and will make it special for the bride. She is my best friend after all and I am having no problems with the MOB!
Just wanted some advice on what I should do and handle this. As I said, it was always my intention to include her later on just wanted the bridesmaids to have their planning time. Thanks!