Help! To invite inlaws to bridal shower?

kblume

I am having trouble trying to figure out whether or not to invite my future mother in law and sister in laws to my bridal shower. 
My sister and bridesmaid are throwing me a bridal shower in Iowa (where I am from) and I would love to invite my future in laws (who live in Kansas) to it so they don't feel left out and I would love to include them.  But here is the problem I think, I am not sure, that my sister in laws are going to give me a bridal shower in Kansas (where I am living now and will live when I get married). 
In March, My fiance mentioned to me that his sisters were giving me a bridal shower in Aug or Sept. and if I would make a guest list for it.  I happily made the guest list told him I made it and he acted like he didn't want it.  So I thought his sisters would mentioned something about needing it to me but they have never asked or even talked to me about the bridal shower in Kansas.  My fiance said they want to make it a surprise.  I wouldn't know much about it, but a couple weeks ago at a graduation the sisters were talking about the cake at our wedding and one of the sisters mentioned that the cake person will be doing my cake for my bridal shower.  I didn't even know they were still doing a bridal shower for me.
When I told my mom I wanted to invite them to the bridal shower in Iowa my mom kind of had reservations about it, because they lived so far away.  My mom says that the bridal shower in Iowa should be for local people then the ones that live in Kansas can go to the one that the sisters give me.  I agree with that, but I don't even know anything about the bridal shower in Kansas.
So I need some advise on whether or not to invite the future in laws to the Iowa bridal shower and should I invite my Kansas friends to the bridal shower in Iowa?  It could be possible that there will never be a Kansas bridal shower the way my fiance's sisters are. 

laurenkronenberg

Well... My advice would be to just politely ask if they would be interested! I am not sure if there is another way around it. Something along the lines of, 'my family in Iowa is having a shower for me there and am extending the invite altho I realize that it is a pretty far trip juat for a shower'. That way, if they have something plannedfor you in Kansas, maybe they will just hint at that instead. You would not want to exclude the invite for them completely bc if they do not have somethinf planned, his family should get an invite to the shower. Just an idea. Good luck!

MairePoppy

The MOB and MOG should receive courtesy invitations to all showers. I would include the sisters in that, too. An invitation is not a subpoena, so they are free to accept or decline it.

Since fi has clammed up about the Kansas shower, I would assume that the hosts have the guest list and details worked out, so you shouldn't ask to add friends to the list.  I have a feeling they are planning the shower for their side of the family and assume that the Iowa shower is for your family. If that's the case, they will turn down your sister's invitation.

Have fun at your showers!

kblume

Thank you so much!  I will go  ahead with my first instinct and invite them out of respect.  I would hate to not invite them then their feelings get hurt or something like that.  It doesn't hurt to invite them to the Iowa shower. 
Thank you for your advice. : )