My aunt is getting married for the first time 2 days before her 50th birthday. The wedding is going to be very small, only 40 close family members. She won't be registering and she is not expecting gifts. Should there be a shower? If so, what do guests give her in lieu of gifts? Also, who should be invited? Should we stick to only family attending the wedding or open it up to family and friends that aren't invited to the wedding?